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Expressing Love Means Giving Love
Expressing Love Means Giving Love

One of the biggest obstacles in relationships is
Love.
 It is what everyone says they want.
Love.
 It makes the world go round.
You hear this question all the time. Why doesn't he or she love me anymore?
Why did they leave?
Love.
 It is the biggest obstacle in your relationships. It is almost a paradox that the one thing you want is the one thing that holds you back from truly achieving it.

Self love is the number one reason you have no love.


If you want love then give it and don't focus on receiving it.  Treat others how you want to be treated and let the love, affection and good will come into your life naturally.
The point is not to be so greedy in relationships.
 Yes, it is only right for you to want it for yourself but don't become a demanding, childish, self-centered, supposedly adult human being in the process.

Many problems in relationships are caused not by the partners stubborn ability to do wrong to you but by your own stubborn ability to love yourself more than anybody.
You all say you want love in your lives. To give love to that someone special. To prove you love them everyday.
While it is only right and natural that you include yourselves in your meaning of love, it seems to carry over to much into intimate relationships.
It is better to love yourself and guard yourself before others but don't be too self-centered in the process.

Express Love for Others  

In order to get love you are supposed to give it.
In order to receive love you should be able to give it first and continue giving it even after you start to get it. Don't stop giving out affection just because you now have it.
It can disappear as fast as it came into your life.
Many of you who complain you are suffering because your lover left are guilty of this.
Once you got a lover you started getting selfish and were focusing on yourself and what you want. You didn't pay attention to your partner's needs and desires. Maybe you even considered them less important than you.
Almost as if they need to make-up for the years you spent alone.

Instead of looking for ways to cooperate with a lover, many people begin to focus on themselves. What can they get out of this. They start the "I want" or "I need" lines of thought. One of the biggest turn-offs is a partner telling you "I want" all the time.
One to many "I wants" and it makes them feel like they should head out the door and never return, because this person seems totally self centered and can't get off themselves.
love each other

It will even cause somebody to ask themselves "Why does she think she is so much better than me?"
"If he wants to be the most important person in my life then how come I don't feel very important in his?"
"All I ever hear is that I need to do this and not do that. I need to do everything how she tells me to do it and I don't have the right to speak out or say no."
"Why does he even tell me he loves me? It is obvious he loves himself."
"Apparently, she thinks I don't have a brain. Apparently she feels that my possessions don't matter and should be gotten rid of because hers are better."

Sound familiar? 
Surely most people have had these same types of situations occur.
Humans tend to get selfish when they are involved in intimate relationships.
In the above examples, instead of insulting somebody over a possession why not just compromise about where to put it, at least don't throw it away. How would you feel if they threw your stuff away. If you are guilty of that type of action you actually deserve to be alone.
Or consider the situation where one person is deciding who does what for chores or responsibilities in the relationship. Honestly, can one person actually expect the other to blindly obey their every order? Do you actually expect them to? Sorry to say, you deserve to be alone.
It just doesn't take much thought to realize these things and if you are guilty of it, then basically you need to stop being so self-centered and consider the other people in your life as well.

Lonely

Sometimes being lonely or hurt feeling before hand can make people subconsciously act in a selfish manner. They finally have something they desired in their lives and want satisfaction. This is actually normal. Problem is that it actually drives people away. If you know somebody like this maybe you can politely give them a heads-up about their behavior. Who knows if they will listen to you or if they will get angry, but you tried to help them at least!
If it is you and you are realizing it then stop acting this way and start considering your partner first for awhile. If you know there is a real problem between you then maybe just tell them you realized what you were doing and will try to stop. Many lovers will be happy that you admitted to an error and will think better of you as a result. Just make sure you keep trying or any effort you made will be for nothing.

Interactive Relationship

When you are thinking about your desires in a relationship, why not include how those desires may affect your partner?
Let the desires you have be good for both of you and not just to satisfy you own whims of the moment.
If you are not sure how a lover may react to taking part in your plans you can always ask them how they feel about the subject. It may be something they are interested in and their wholehearted cooperation may make it an even better experience. Certainly better than causing distress.

Let's say you wanted to go to a movie over the weekend and just assumed that your lover had to go with you because you decided to do it.  Maybe they don't want to see that movie or actually had their heart set on doing something else. Instead of dragging them along why not just ask what they had in mind for the weekend? They may have had an even better idea in mind.

Love is a two way street and if you want it to stay in your life then your wise to remember that. Considering the other person and how your actions may affect them can spare you a lot of strife and heartbreak. Many times it leads to a much happier relationship and you won't be sorry. At the very least you may not be to blame if your love does turn sour and that will help you combat any negative emotions heartbreak can cause.

Leave any comments or suggestions below.


Number One Reason You have no Love


Expressing Love Means Giving Love
Expressing Love Means Giving Love

One of the biggest obstacles in relationships is
Love.
 It is what everyone says they want.
Love.
 It makes the world go round.
You hear this question all the time. Why doesn't he or she love me anymore?
Why did they leave?
Love.
 It is the biggest obstacle in your relationships. It is almost a paradox that the one thing you want is the one thing that holds you back from truly achieving it.

Self love is the number one reason you have no love.


If you want love then give it and don't focus on receiving it.  Treat others how you want to be treated and let the love, affection and good will come into your life naturally.
The point is not to be so greedy in relationships.
 Yes, it is only right for you to want it for yourself but don't become a demanding, childish, self-centered, supposedly adult human being in the process.

Many problems in relationships are caused not by the partners stubborn ability to do wrong to you but by your own stubborn ability to love yourself more than anybody.
You all say you want love in your lives. To give love to that someone special. To prove you love them everyday.
While it is only right and natural that you include yourselves in your meaning of love, it seems to carry over to much into intimate relationships.
It is better to love yourself and guard yourself before others but don't be too self-centered in the process.

Express Love for Others  

In order to get love you are supposed to give it.
In order to receive love you should be able to give it first and continue giving it even after you start to get it. Don't stop giving out affection just because you now have it.
It can disappear as fast as it came into your life.
Many of you who complain you are suffering because your lover left are guilty of this.
Once you got a lover you started getting selfish and were focusing on yourself and what you want. You didn't pay attention to your partner's needs and desires. Maybe you even considered them less important than you.
Almost as if they need to make-up for the years you spent alone.

Instead of looking for ways to cooperate with a lover, many people begin to focus on themselves. What can they get out of this. They start the "I want" or "I need" lines of thought. One of the biggest turn-offs is a partner telling you "I want" all the time.
One to many "I wants" and it makes them feel like they should head out the door and never return, because this person seems totally self centered and can't get off themselves.
love each other

It will even cause somebody to ask themselves "Why does she think she is so much better than me?"
"If he wants to be the most important person in my life then how come I don't feel very important in his?"
"All I ever hear is that I need to do this and not do that. I need to do everything how she tells me to do it and I don't have the right to speak out or say no."
"Why does he even tell me he loves me? It is obvious he loves himself."
"Apparently, she thinks I don't have a brain. Apparently she feels that my possessions don't matter and should be gotten rid of because hers are better."

Sound familiar? 
Surely most people have had these same types of situations occur.
Humans tend to get selfish when they are involved in intimate relationships.
In the above examples, instead of insulting somebody over a possession why not just compromise about where to put it, at least don't throw it away. How would you feel if they threw your stuff away. If you are guilty of that type of action you actually deserve to be alone.
Or consider the situation where one person is deciding who does what for chores or responsibilities in the relationship. Honestly, can one person actually expect the other to blindly obey their every order? Do you actually expect them to? Sorry to say, you deserve to be alone.
It just doesn't take much thought to realize these things and if you are guilty of it, then basically you need to stop being so self-centered and consider the other people in your life as well.

Lonely

Sometimes being lonely or hurt feeling before hand can make people subconsciously act in a selfish manner. They finally have something they desired in their lives and want satisfaction. This is actually normal. Problem is that it actually drives people away. If you know somebody like this maybe you can politely give them a heads-up about their behavior. Who knows if they will listen to you or if they will get angry, but you tried to help them at least!
If it is you and you are realizing it then stop acting this way and start considering your partner first for awhile. If you know there is a real problem between you then maybe just tell them you realized what you were doing and will try to stop. Many lovers will be happy that you admitted to an error and will think better of you as a result. Just make sure you keep trying or any effort you made will be for nothing.

Interactive Relationship

When you are thinking about your desires in a relationship, why not include how those desires may affect your partner?
Let the desires you have be good for both of you and not just to satisfy you own whims of the moment.
If you are not sure how a lover may react to taking part in your plans you can always ask them how they feel about the subject. It may be something they are interested in and their wholehearted cooperation may make it an even better experience. Certainly better than causing distress.

Let's say you wanted to go to a movie over the weekend and just assumed that your lover had to go with you because you decided to do it.  Maybe they don't want to see that movie or actually had their heart set on doing something else. Instead of dragging them along why not just ask what they had in mind for the weekend? They may have had an even better idea in mind.

Love is a two way street and if you want it to stay in your life then your wise to remember that. Considering the other person and how your actions may affect them can spare you a lot of strife and heartbreak. Many times it leads to a much happier relationship and you won't be sorry. At the very least you may not be to blame if your love does turn sour and that will help you combat any negative emotions heartbreak can cause.

Leave any comments or suggestions below.



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