tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-60839762180211888242015-02-10T10:33:53.457-08:00 Dating ExpressionMike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-77377212830934778472015-02-10T10:33:00.001-08:002015-02-10T10:33:53.467-08:00Lonely Man Meets Woman in Dating Death Match<script src="//secure.freado.com/player/script.js.php?content_id=20232&amp;widgetwidth=320&amp;widgetheight=240&amp;widgetbgColor='000000'" type="text/javascript"></script> &nbsp;&nbsp; After a life time of disappointment and sadness he finally got it together and overcame his inner fear about meeting new women as potential dates or sexual partners.<br />It was easier than he thought it would be because until now, he could never think of anything to say to any woman when he was face to face with them. In turn, they never stayed around in his company for long and sometimes even seemed scared of him.<br />This hurt the poor lonely man and he retreated into his private residence and didn't go out as much as he used to.<br />He couldn't stand it though and needed to find somebody to love or even just meetup with for a fun night. He knew he had to overcome his secret problems and needed a way to do it.<br />One day while surfing the internet he ran across a dating advice website called Dating Expression. He saw a page just like this one and read the words on it.<br />He agreed, change and overcome inner fears and worry can make you able to forge a new life that is happier.<br />He clicked through the link to eBook offering the men's dating advice and bought it.<br />Why not he thought, it is so cheap and if nothing else I can at least be able to talk with women which would be a relief from so much.<br />He got the eBook and followed the information and started to meet not just one but more than one different women that were agreeable to his company. A few of them were even going out of their way to call him and talk.<br />Now he felt like his life was getting better and was falling into place more correctly. No man should be alone without romance and the company of women for dating or friendship.<br />I encourage you if you are not able to speak freely when you are around women to get this eBook and put it into action. It is easy to use and is realistic. It makes sense and works, even if you are shy or still a virgin, you will discover that those things never really mattered to women.Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-54727169348681050322015-01-30T06:30:00.001-08:002015-01-30T06:30:49.100-08:00Overcome Anxiety about the Opposite Sex. 9 Part Men's Dating Hot Tip<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Dyj2_hRQVdc/VMt0JZhlQZI/AAAAAAAAAoo/QFnTRDdRV_0/s1600/confidence.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="self-confidence" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Dyj2_hRQVdc/VMt0JZhlQZI/AAAAAAAAAoo/QFnTRDdRV_0/s1600/confidence.jpg" title="self-confidence" /></a></div>Approaching a woman and starting a conversation with her can be a very nervous experience, especially if you are shy or have had a hard time with girls in the past.<br />Problem is that you need to talk to more women to increase your chances of dating success when it really matters.<br />Use this old technique to <b>overcome anxiety about the opposite sex with this men's dating hot tip.</b><br />I never hear it talked about very much but it works like a charm as long as you give yourself some time.<br />All you need to do to overcome your fears when speaking to the opposite sex is to start conversations with them in public. Don't approach a woman and have thoughts of how hot you think she is in your mind and don't think about asking her for a date, yet.<br />If you are very shy and filled with fear then just take some time to hangout in public near women. You don't have to engage them in conversations or even try to impress anybody. Obviously, don't be a lurker or act strange, but find ways to position yourself so you are near enough to them that you can hear them talking. This can help you get used to woman's physical presence without the danger of rejection.<br />When you feel that you are ready to start talking, then it's time to begin.<br /><br /><h3>&nbsp; 9 Part Men's Hot Dating Tip </h3><ol><li>Do not act strange. She doesn't know you so be on your best social behavior, just don't be uptight. In other words keep your common sense but have some fun.</li><li>&nbsp;Be well groomed</li><li>&nbsp;Wear clothes that are clean and neat. You don't need a suit and tie but don't have food stains on your shirt.</li><li>&nbsp;Look her in the eyes.</li><li>&nbsp;Smile and have a pleasant facial expression.</li><li>&nbsp;Try to hide any nervousness you feel by moving a little slower and using that good body language.</li><li>&nbsp;If possible touch her lightly once or twice in a short conversation of a few minutes. Don't go overboard and don't bother if she doesn't seem into the conversation.</li><li>&nbsp;Pay attention to her words and use them to make further conversation.</li><li>Stay in control of your emotions and have a positive energy </li></ol><br />Simply walk up to her and start talking about almost anything. Use your surroundings or current events as conversation starters. When you are in a store then make comments about the items for sale or the store in general.<br />If there is a new show in town talk about that or just anything that has been newsworthy.<br />It is important for you to remember to look her in the eyes and face but don't look at her breasts or elsewhere. You need to get used to conversing with women in ways that make you acceptable as a date, even if you aren't trying that yet.<br />When you first approach her, don't surprise her but walk up in a normal manner and be in her line of vision. Depending on where you are, you may want to adjust your walking speed to fit the circumstances. It is best to walk a little slower than most people and <a href="http://www.datingexpression.com/2014/07/how-to-be-attractive-use-attractive.html" target="_blank">use good body English</a>. Your appearance is important in all ways here so appear relaxed and confident, but not a jackass.<br />Have a pleasant expression on your face and start your conversation. You will find that if you talk to her like she is a normal person and not a sex goddess that most of the internal pressure you feel is gone.<br />You need to remember that a woman likes talking. Women even want to be talked to by men they don't know but not if they are acting scared or creepy.<br />So start the conversation with a comment about something and let her reply and let her talk if she appears to be starting to. Don't interrupt her right now, just let her talk because the more she talks the more you have to talk about with her.<br />Use what she talks about to keep the conversation going. Ask her questions about what she mentions and be interested. If an opportunity presents itself then you can make a light joke or two to start some smiles and&nbsp; use a light touch to keep it going.<br />It's up to you two about how long the conversation is, but if you think you are headed for an uncomfortable silence or let-down then feel free to say goodbye.<br />On the other-hand if she seems open to it then ask her out. Just give her your cell phone and tell her to input her name and number and then give her yours in return. Giving her your number shows her that you aren't a hoax and are more likely to be a real person that is safe to talk further with.<br />If she doesn't call you or return any attempts by you to call her, then just remember that you did engage her in a good conversation and that was the point of what you were doing. You actually had a victory, so feel good about yourself.<br />I want to point out to you guys that it is common for women to give out their cell number and then not reply back. They do this because it is easier for them to avoid a possibly awkward public scene.<br />If she doesn't return a couple calls from you then stop and move on.&nbsp; <br />No matter what happens, just remember that all people get turned down and there are many reasons for that.<br />In time you will develop a good understanding about women and how you can relate to them in ways they will find attractive.<br />This way works and I actually used it myself when I was younger and it is something I feel you should continue to do throughout your whole life. Why, because we continue to learn and get more socially adept and women go for a man that is. It is sort of like when you get a girlfriend and all of a sudden all these girls are interested in you. You seem like more of a catch to them, compared to the guy who sits in a corner all by himself.<br />There seems to be so much o know when it comes to relating to the opposite sex and maybe here is. I want you to keep it simple though because otherwise you just mess yourself up.<br />Remember to take the pressure off yourself, that is one of the things that makes those guys with all the girls so successful, they take the pressure off themselves.<br />Good luck and get practicing, you will have a great time and meet a lot of new women as well.<br />Feel free to comment below.<br />. <br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-5455273619050914712014-11-19T08:16:00.001-08:002014-11-19T08:50:01.266-08:00Long Distance Love. Dating Expression Videos<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><object class="BLOGGER-youtube-video" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0" data-thumbnail-src="https://ytimg.googleusercontent.com/vi/D6YJiPxc35E/0.jpg" height="266" width="320"><param name="movie" value="https://youtube.googleapis.com/v/D6YJiPxc35E&source=uds" /><param name="bgcolor" value="#FFFFFF" /><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true" /><embed width="320" height="266" src="https://youtube.googleapis.com/v/D6YJiPxc35E&source=uds" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true"></embed></object></div>above video is from You Tube.<br />&nbsp;My Long Distance Relationship Story &amp; Tips by Michelle Phan<br />Link to the Original Video.<br />&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D6YJiPxc35E" target="_blank">My Long Distance Relationship Story &amp; Tips by Michelle Phan</a> <br /><h3>Separated Lovers</h3>So many people now are involved in a long distance relationship. <br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-HDN0pPyKx5k/VGzFxPr9XII/AAAAAAAAAn8/1qKKoDo0KkQ/s1600/love-letters.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Love Letters" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-HDN0pPyKx5k/VGzFxPr9XII/AAAAAAAAAn8/1qKKoDo0KkQ/s1600/love-letters.jpg" height="264" title="Love Letters" width="400" /></a></div>&nbsp;I can sympathize because I have been in 2 of them myself. It isn't easy maintaining love and trust when your partner is so far away. But, the modern world just doesn't stop for a weeping heart. Thankfully, there are people like these two in the video above that can help us through those lonely times. They can be an inspiration for separated lovers to continue to work together and uphold honesty and integrity in the romance. Sometimes, I have noticed that if you are both working on building your lives together, then the time apart can make for a strong union. This is because you have already been facing trials that many relationships don't go through for at least a few years. But you two have weathered them and came out closer than ever. <br /><h4>Many Obstacles of&nbsp; LDR's (Long Distance Relationships)</h4>Secretly dating others when your lover is hundreds of miles away? No one would know but you. Will you maintain your loyalty or stray a few times? Will you trust your partner or get fulled with doubt and suspicion. If so then take a deep breath because the relationship may be in trouble. We all know that to much doubt will ruin a love and if you are spending your free time miserable because of it then being together again may not even solve your problems. Trouble is, many long distance loves break-up because of this fact. It is too easy to cheat and lie to your partner and too easy for them to do it to you and there isn't any proof for either of you. That was a mouthful. <b>Time is another possible opponent to your love.</b> The time you two are apart can work to put an invisible wedge between the two of you and before very long one of you wants to call it quits. It is natural. Like healing after heartbreak or the lose of a friend. Time can heal all wounds but it can also see love pass away. So don't let your relationship be ruined by staying apart for to long. <br /><h4>Love is a Team Effort</h4>There are many troubles to face when two loves are forced apart and those I mentioned above are just a couple of them.<br />&nbsp;It is best to be honest and cooperative with your other half during this time. Like the two in the video, be thoughtful and creative.<br />Show them you care and show them you are working on life. On being reunited with them. Don't cause them stress or worry because you are calling constantly and acting out of sorts. If anything, be a source of strength. Even if you don't feel that way, your partner will admire you for it and if you are the man, she will appreciate it much more.<br />If you are the woman, just kindly let him know from time to time, he is your desire. It can work wonders for his motivation and hopefully, he won't pester you with jealous thoughts racing through his mind. It is a kindness he will appreciate more than you know and it really doesn't cost you anything.<br /><br />With teamwork and cooperation, your long distance relationship will be up close and personal before you know it. So hang in there and let them know you care.<br /><br />Please share your advice below. <br /><br />Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-64999962889741843682014-11-18T19:35:00.002-08:002014-11-18T19:35:17.522-08:00Number One Reason You have no Love<br /><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-naDrCT7cW6s/VFcIaOEbkII/AAAAAAAAAhM/k8SmbNCfSfw/s1600/give-love.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Expressing Love Means Giving Love" border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-naDrCT7cW6s/VFcIaOEbkII/AAAAAAAAAhM/k8SmbNCfSfw/s1600/give-love.jpg" title="Expressing Love Means Giving Love" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Expressing Love Means Giving Love</td></tr></tbody></table><br />One of the biggest obstacles in relationships is<br /><i>Love.</i><br />&nbsp;It is what everyone says they want.<br /><i>Love</i>.<br />&nbsp;It makes the world go round.<br />You hear this question all the time. Why doesn't he or she love me anymore?<br />Why did they leave?<br /><i>Love.</i><br />&nbsp;It is the biggest obstacle in your relationships. It is almost a paradox that the one thing you want is the one thing that holds you back from truly achieving it.<br /><br /><h3><i><b>Self love is the number one reason you have no love. </b></i></h3><br />If you want love then give it and don't focus on receiving it.&nbsp; Treat others how you want to be treated and let the love, affection and good will come into your life naturally.<br />The point is not to be so greedy in relationships.<br />&nbsp;Yes, it is only right for you to want it for yourself but don't become a demanding, childish, self-centered, supposedly adult human being in the process.<br /><br />Many problems in relationships are caused not by the partners stubborn ability to do wrong to you but by your own stubborn ability to love yourself more than anybody.<br />You all say you want love in your lives. To give love to that someone special. To prove you love them everyday.<br />While it is only right and natural that you include yourselves in your meaning of love, it seems to carry over to much into intimate relationships.<br />It is better to love yourself and guard yourself before others but don't be too self-centered in the process.<br /><h4>Express Love for Others&nbsp;&nbsp;</h4>In order to get love you are supposed to give it.<br />In order to receive love you should be able to give it first and continue giving it even after you start to get it. Don't stop giving out affection just because you now have it.<br />It can disappear as fast as it came into your life. <br />Many of you who complain you are suffering because your lover left are guilty of this.<br />Once you got a lover you started getting selfish and were focusing on yourself and what you want. You didn't pay attention to your partner's needs and desires. Maybe you even considered them less important than you.<br />Almost as if they need to make-up for the years you spent alone.<br /><br />Instead of looking for ways to cooperate with a lover, many people begin to focus on themselves. What can they get out of this. They start the "I want" or "I need" lines of thought. <i>One of the biggest turn-offs is a partner telling you "I want" all the time</i>.<br />One to many "<i>I wants</i>" and it makes them feel like they should head out the door and never return, because this person seems totally self centered and can't get off themselves.<br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-1E2pcvCCMak/VGwPeJ95aWI/AAAAAAAAAns/HVcUE-0-gz0/s1600/loveeachother.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="love each other" border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-1E2pcvCCMak/VGwPeJ95aWI/AAAAAAAAAns/HVcUE-0-gz0/s1600/loveeachother.jpg" height="266" title="love each other" width="400" /></a></div><br />It will even cause somebody to ask themselves "Why does she think she is so much better than me?" <br />"If he wants to be the most important person in my life then how come I don't feel very important in his?"<br />"All I ever hear is that <i>I need to do this and not do that. I need to do everything how she tells me to</i> do it and I don't have the right to speak out or say no."<br />"Why does he even tell me he loves me? It is obvious he loves himself."<br />"Apparently, she thinks I don't have a brain. Apparently she feels that my possessions don't matter and should be gotten rid of because hers are better."<br /><br />Sound familiar?&nbsp; <br />Surely most people have had these same types of situations occur.<br />Humans tend to get selfish when they are involved in intimate relationships.<br />In the above examples, instead of insulting somebody over a possession why not just compromise about where to put it, at least don't throw it away. How would you feel if they threw your stuff away. If you are guilty of that type of action you actually deserve to be alone.<br />Or consider the situation where one person is deciding who does what for chores or responsibilities in the relationship. Honestly, can one person actually expect the other to blindly obey their every order? Do you actually expect them to? Sorry to say, you deserve to be alone. <br />It just doesn't take much thought to realize these things and if you are guilty of it, then basically you need to stop being so self-centered and consider the other people in your life as well.<br /><h4>Lonely</h4>Sometimes being lonely or hurt feeling before hand can make people subconsciously act in a selfish manner. They finally have something they desired in their lives and want satisfaction. This is actually normal. Problem is that it actually drives people away. If you know somebody like this maybe you can politely give them a heads-up about their behavior. Who knows if they will listen to you or if they will get angry, but you tried to help them at least! <br />If it is you and you are realizing it then stop acting this way and start considering your partner first for awhile. If you know there is a real problem between you then maybe just tell them you realized what you were doing and will try to stop. Many lovers will be happy that you admitted to an error and will think better of you as a result. Just make sure you keep trying or any effort you made will be for nothing.<br /><h4>Interactive Relationship</h4>When you are thinking about your desires in a relationship, why not include how those desires may affect your partner?<br />Let the desires you have be good for both of you and not just to satisfy you own whims of the moment.<br />If you are not sure how a lover may react to taking part in your plans you can always ask them how they feel about the subject. It may be something they are interested in and their wholehearted cooperation may make it an even better experience. Certainly better than causing distress.<br /><br />Let's say you wanted to go to a movie over the weekend and just assumed that your lover had to go with you because you decided to do it.&nbsp; Maybe they don't want to see that movie or actually had their heart set on doing something else. Instead of dragging them along why not just ask what they had in mind for the weekend? They may have had an even better idea in mind.<br /><br />Love is a two way street and if you want it to stay in your life then your wise to remember that. Considering the other person and how your actions may affect them can spare you a lot of strife and heartbreak. Many times it leads to a much happier relationship and you won't be sorry. At the very least you may not be to blame if your love does turn sour and that will help you combat any negative emotions heartbreak can cause.<br /><br />Leave any comments or suggestions below.<br /><br /><br />Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-17451687832775685362014-10-23T02:43:00.001-07:002014-10-23T08:53:54.719-07:00Fun and Freaky. Halloween Dating for 2014<br /><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dEJjc54lYE4/VDs7HW14lCI/AAAAAAAAAZY/Egor1KZ9jTc/s1600/blackmask.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Black masked woman" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dEJjc54lYE4/VDs7HW14lCI/AAAAAAAAAZY/Egor1KZ9jTc/s1600/blackmask.jpg" height="212" title="Black masked woman" width="320" /></a>Fun and Freaky. Halloween Dating for 2014 promises to be a good time for singles who want to get frisky.<br /><br />Everybody seems in the mood to blow off some steam from the year and this Halloween promises to be the night they intend to do just that.<br /><br />If you live in a major metropolitan area then there must be no shortage of Halloween bashes and dances that you can attend.<br /><br /><a name='more'></a><br /><br />&nbsp;Sometimes, even the online dating sites will host a party close to a holiday and usually they report that they are a hit. I can't imagine going to such a party and not being able to hook-up with somebody. Even if you have no social skills what so ever, I am sure they can help you get a dance or even a date for the rest of the night.<br /><h3>&nbsp;Free Dating Sites</h3>An idea for those who like to try online dating apps is to check out the ones that seem to have singles in your area and find out if there is anything planned. Who knows, maybe someone you happen to have a quick chat with knows of a hip dance to go to or a get together somewhere.<br /><br />With the new dating sites, many of them offering free versions and mobile apps, there is more opportunity than ever for lonely people to meet someone, if only for a night of freaky fun.<br /><br />&nbsp;Halloween this year could very well be a blast for you to remember for a long time to come!<br /><h4></h4><h4></h4><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-3TitXxLQoro/VDtCmBrhuEI/AAAAAAAAAZw/B521Z2W5ABU/s1600/costumeparty.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Halloween Party" border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-3TitXxLQoro/VDtCmBrhuEI/AAAAAAAAAZw/B521Z2W5ABU/s1600/costumeparty.jpg" height="145" title="Halloween Party" width="320" /></a></div>A really good way to meet someone this year is to head over to a singles Halloween party. If your not sure where they are then you can start with an internet search for your area. Try searching for Singles Halloween Parties or Singles Halloween Bash or Dances. Use your imagination and search for it.<br /><br />Another good way is to check out the weekly paper.<br /><br />I think that one of your best options is to check out the local bars and clubs, find out what they have planned and their prices to attend and all that. You can start weeding out the events that are too expensive or just not interesting to you.<br /><br />&nbsp;All in all, checking out the local clubs seems like your best bet. If they are not having anything interesting then they may know of somewhere that does.<br /><br />Maybe you normally don't attend large dances or parties but this year you can change all that and change the fact that you haven't gotten lucky on Halloween for along time as well. Halloween is a perfect time to shed those worries and inhibitions because you can wear a costume and most people won't recognize you.<br /><br />Remember the fact that people love to get down and dirty on this day and it is a no brainer. Go out and meet a freak for the night!<br /><h4>Be Safe</h4>Better to play it safe his year and not drink to much.You are always more attractive to the opposite sex when<br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-_kZ8lJwQnnE/VDs7cbqXxQI/AAAAAAAAAZg/9zyCLRyqV6I/s1600/twogirlsincostumes.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Girls in costumes" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-_kZ8lJwQnnE/VDs7cbqXxQI/AAAAAAAAAZg/9zyCLRyqV6I/s1600/twogirlsincostumes.jpg" height="320" title="Girls in costumes" width="213" /></a></div>you aren't intoxicated and most people won't find you very attractive or want to sleep with you if you are slurring your speech and acting stupid. Make sure you limit your alcohol intake and if you need to, then try just slowly sipping instead.<br /><br />Chances are that you may be at an event that serves alcoholic beverages and it is wise to be cautious by drinking slowly and not engaging in contests. Stay in control of yourself and your actions so you won't do anything that you regret in the morning.<br /><br />Make sure that you have a designated driver or have access to safe public transportation like a taxi or something. We are all adults so I don't want to give a lecture on playing it safe.<br /><br />Halloween is just around the corner so make sure you get a costume lined up just in case you need it and forget about being single or shy!<br /><br />Have a blast this Halloween. Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-83284421136918004452014-10-21T23:29:00.001-07:002014-10-27T18:04:47.857-07:00Jennifer Laude,Ladyboys,Crossdressers. Common in Philippines<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-wufUML8educ/VEdNa-F7P6I/AAAAAAAAAbw/hwj3LJKoDTk/s1600/attentiontourists.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="attention tourists" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-wufUML8educ/VEdNa-F7P6I/AAAAAAAAAbw/hwj3LJKoDTk/s1600/attentiontourists.jpg" height="194" title="attention tourists" width="320" /></a></div>It actually isn't much of a surprise to see the news about what happened to Jennifer Laude.<br /><br />Though it is sad to be sure because violence and killing are never good.<br /><br />Truth is there are many people like Jennifer Laude in the Philippines and even S.E. Asia.<br /><a name='more'></a><br /><br />There are transgenders, cross-dressers, lady-boys and t-boys, call it by whatever name you want, they are here.<br /><br />To quickly state my views on this particular type of case, I feel that anything like what happened with Miss Laude should go to a non-partial court. Something like the United Nations or similar organization that is not tied to or biased for any nation.<br /><br /><br />This way justice may be served for both parties and hopefully the anger toward people of a certain color or nationality will be lessened.<br /><br />It seems that by not having a non-partial hearing, they are only aggravating the tension between cultures and nobody that lives here as a foreign national wants that. I certainly don't want to be pointed at because I am white and I reside here.<br /><br />Honestly, it seems that you need to get all the facts straight because is anyone really sure what happened? It isn't right to condemn or condone without a non-biased investigation.<br /><br />I understand why any U.S. National would be taken from the Philippines after something like this goes down but like I said, A non-partial investigation seems only fair to both parties.<br /><h3>Transgenders and Lady-boys in the Philippines</h3>I have actually been thinking the whole time that this blog has been live, to write about this topic, but was never sure how to go about it. Obviously, it is a touchy subject.<br /><br />When you are a man, out and about in the Islands and you are a foreigner, you will encounter these types of personalities. In fact, the more outgoing the girl is or the more obviously she is trying to get your attention, it is a good chance the person is a lady-boy or transgender.<br /><br />Take a walk down the beaches in the resort areas or at night near the bar and clubs and you will notice it. The girl who is smiling and waving, or even walking over, probably wasn't born as a girl. She may be a man with all the male organs dressed as a woman or she may have both male and female parts or she may have girl parts. But, look closer and there may be a large adam's apple or broader shoulders.<br /><br />To be honest with you guys, most natural born women here do not go out of their way to wave you down or actually follow you, at least not very far. They may in their own ways get your attention but they are women. Have you ever had a woman wave you down? No, I doubt it. It isn't the way women do things. Especially in a conservative culture. <b><i>But, you may not know that, either.</i></b><br /><br />However, if you are new here and single, you may be a little overwhelmed about how women look. There is really a difference comparing an Asian woman to a Caucasian woman. Add to the exotic appearance, the fact that they have that inner sexual thing that is impossible to miss and you are probably hoping to meet a girl for the evening.<br /><br />Add to that a darker environment at night and you have a potentially explosive mix.<br /><br />In many places at night the lighting isn't very bright and if you are intoxicated you may not realize at first that this girl talking to you has a bigger adam's apple than you do.<br /><br />A good piece of dating advice I will give you is to make sure you know what sex they are before you agree to go-out with or sleep with someone here.<br />From a distance it may be more difficult to tell but face to face it usually easy. Most of the time they haven't had that much of a change that you won't know. Although if they do a good job with the make-up, then it may be a lot more difficult to tell. If in doubt I guess you could always ask. But I am sure a normal woman will be highly offended.<br /><br />Keep in mind what I said about the more outgoing or flamboyant girls being boys. They probably are.<br /><br /><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-esIqkmQfAp4/VEdM9b4BuOI/AAAAAAAAAbo/vYSbbRQfOj8/s1600/girlsforhire.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="girls for hire" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-esIqkmQfAp4/VEdM9b4BuOI/AAAAAAAAAbo/vYSbbRQfOj8/s1600/girlsforhire.jpg" height="195" title="girls for hire" width="320" /></a>Unless you are in one of those areas like Angeles City or something, most girls won't be that publicly <br />obvious. They don't make a show in front of people. If they do she is probably a prostitute or lady-boy. Remember that because a prostitute will want your money and the lady-boy will too and that's why they are trying so hard to get your attention. Money.<br /><br />If a normal girl was being so obvious about it then I would wonder what is really going on. You almost have to be here to understand what I am saying.<br />A normal girl here may be obvious in public, that she is interested in you, and that in part is so people know she may be going out with a foreigner. That she isn't going in secret to be naughty or something. That she is a real girl who wants a real man. Not a prostitute seeking money.<br /><br />But the difference seems to be that some prostitutes (not all) or lady-boys are even more obvious, calling attention to you and themselves so much that the whole world knows. They make sure they single themselves out to you and will even push their attentions on you. Sometimes even taking your hand and not wanting to let go until you agree to go with them.<br /><br />Most prostitutes don't do those things I think but some will.<br />One time while walking down the sidewalk, a girl came up and said "hi, where are you going?" and she took my hand and would not let go. I had a hard time taking my hand back and finally had to say very firmly no and pull my hand away. She got mad and actually hit my hand with her fist. The prostitutes here have a certain pride and I had offended hers by refusing her. Only, like I said most prostitutes won't do that because they are prostitutes and who wants to get into trouble?<br />&nbsp;I don't want to write in depth about the prostitution here because that isn't this post and that isn't actually a normal type of date or piece of dating advice. Obviously.<br />But I mentioned it because it may relate to what is just now in the news.<br /><br />The point of this post is to let you know to be careful when you are here or anywhere in S. E. Asia. While most women are not prostitutes and not everybody is a lady-boy, it is common and you really do need to be aware of it.<br />If you are not interested in ladies of the evening or meeting he-shes then keep your eyes open and use your head. Do that anyway because you will regret it if you don't.<br /><br />&nbsp; Violence is never the answer and if you are in a foreign culture, is really a bad idea. They will immediately go against you because of it. It isn't even a good idea to raise your voice in anger. They consider you an outsider and maybe you should just leave if you are mad about something. <br /><br />There is a danger because if you take the wrong girl to a room for the night then you may be robbed. That is actually rather common. Most of the time there is no killing but guys being ripped off by the girl they brought back to their room is common.<br />Don't leave money or your identification where she can take it or copy down your id numbers. Use a hidden money belt or something and don't show anyone anything of value. Never try to impress them because you will be robbed.<br /><br />Girls will often ask you for money for transportation expenses or medical or school bills. Depending on your relationship and your attitude, you may help them to a greater or lesser degree. It is true they probably do need money but don't dish out everything she asks for.<br /><br /><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-I7R20IVSzpw/VEdOCJZggOI/AAAAAAAAAb4/cArdocMe5G8/s1600/exclamation.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="cool Philippines girl" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-I7R20IVSzpw/VEdOCJZggOI/AAAAAAAAAb4/cArdocMe5G8/s1600/exclamation.jpg" title="cool Philippines girl" /></a><b>I would help the girl with some expenses if she is nice to you and seems more genuine or at least honest. But, if not then don't bother wasting your time or money. I mentioned I would if they are honest and nice because that is a big bonus in a girls favor over here. A girl that way is worth helping out and cultivating a true friendship with. And like I have said many times, a nice Philippines girl is really special to find and know, even as a friend.</b><br /><br />What happened with Miss Jennifer Laude is sad and I hope justice is served to both parties.<br />&nbsp;Let it be a warning to keep your eyes open and your wits about you. You are in a foreign culture so obviously you should be extra careful.<br />Take some time to digest and even research what I have mentioned and your dating experiences may be better. Don't let the bad of the world keep you from making and having your own good time.<br />The Philippines is a cool country to visit and even live.A lot of Philippines girls are awesome and making a dating expression together can be a one of a kind experience that can last you forever!<br /><br />Leave comments below!Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-64339040923657807182014-10-21T00:36:00.003-07:002014-10-21T01:06:38.178-07:00Real Dating Tips for Meeting a Philippines Girl. Assumptions and Attitudes<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Ys-ERgoAyX4/VEYL8VicrUI/AAAAAAAAAbI/5XAsBWwpts8/s1600/foreigntourists.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="philippines tourists" border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Ys-ERgoAyX4/VEYL8VicrUI/AAAAAAAAAbI/5XAsBWwpts8/s1600/foreigntourists.jpg" height="213" title="philippines tourists" width="320" /></a>Dating Expressions latest in our ongoing posts about dating Filipinas covers some rather tricky and sensitive issues that can and surely will arise if you are here for any length of time.<br />This weeks <b>Real Dating Tips for Meeting a Philippines Girl</b> talks some about assumptions and personal attitudes that are encountered often in the Philippines.<br /><a name='more'></a><br />We hope you bear in mind that we are not trying to sound harsh about either the Filipinos or the foreigners that visit here, but some things should be at least mentioned to newcomers. Although, a person actually needs to be here for some time before they can understand and sometimes it is just plain hard to discuss these subjects online.<br /><br />Issues are bound to surface, especially since this is a third world nation and there are many cultural, educational and experience levels, not to mention the&nbsp; monetary differences that abound.<br />This real dating tip will touch somewhat lightly the matter of assumptions and how they tend to show up. As I said, I think this is a sensitive subject and you should read it with an open mind. There are no insults intended toward either side.<br /><br />When you first arrive in an area you should take some time and get to know how things are there before you put to much effort into girlfriend hunting.<br /><br />In the small town and rural places especially there will be a conservative attitude along with the deeply ingrained Catholic teachings.<br /><br />Remember that because it plays a highly important part of every day life here and whether you like it or not you won't change anything. Spare yourself the hassle and don't bother ever trying to change something you see here.<br /><br />This conservative attitude is real important to you because it means that when trying to find a date you are going to run into this. Many times, a man needs to court a girl before she is allowed to see him, even for a date. The family will most surely know that she is going out with a foreigner and most probably there will be people she knows close to you two all night and you may not even realize it.<br /><br />Being a foreigner often times may negate the actual courting issue, but rest assured word spreads quickly and just being seen talking to a visitor will be the first news on the grapevine and the girls know this. Many times, a girl will not be receptive to you because of this fact.<br /><h3>&nbsp;Assumptions of Filipinos</h3>People here have a tendency to assume. They just simply assume they know something and a lot of times they are completely wrong. They not only do it to foreigners but to each other as well. Bear that in mind because not everything you encounter is because you are a foreigner, although it may seem like it at first.<br /><br />A wide spread assumption is that all foreigners are after is to take sexual advantage of a Philippines girl.<br />This is like many assumptions and attitudes here. They will&nbsp; at one time seem to condone it, because they for sure will date a foreigner and on the other hand they will look down on foreigners who are here to meet Filipinas.<br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-3_oMKGAvEZk/VEYM0ROga4I/AAAAAAAAAbY/iv2Js1XFAks/s1600/boracaystreet1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="average Filipinos" border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-3_oMKGAvEZk/VEYM0ROga4I/AAAAAAAAAbY/iv2Js1XFAks/s1600/boracaystreet1.jpg" height="320" title="average Filipinos" width="213" /></a></div>You will notice this in public, especially in the lesser populated areas. When you are looking around and a woman happens to be in your line of sight, they will just assume that you are looking at her with sexual desire. It doesn't seem to make any difference how you are looking either.<br /><br />I know this is true because I have had it happen more than once. They even approached me and inquired if I was married or single and would I like to marry this girl they thought I was ogling but wasn't.<br /><br />Another time at a fish market I was standing looking around and getting my bearings. I was also looking at the various kinds of fish and a pretty girl smiled at me. I smiled and said hello back and all of a sudden an old man who was apparently her grandfather was threatening me with a large meat cleaver. Telling me that he doesn't care if <i>I think I am so sexy</i>, I better get away from this girl.<br />He was very mad and I just decided to leave the market.<br />All this just because she smiled and said hello. It is funny in hindsight, but it is important to note because it shows you the attitude many of the Filipinos will have about you.<br /><br />Many other times a woman will assume you are interested because you look in her direction. Sometimes, this can work in our favor if you are actually interested in her but often times they look offended. <i>If I could only tell you no, I am not looking at you that way is a common thought I have had since I have moved here.</i><br /><br />&nbsp; They tend to watch foreigners closely and will make these assumptions, this can be rather frustrating because like I said it isn't fair and most of the time they are wrong.<br /><br />A funny thing is that if you in turn observe a Filipino, you will notice they watch women a lot. Don't figure does it?<br /><br />&nbsp;Often times a pinay will look or smile rather suggestively at you and it is totally misleading. This has happened to me so often I almost expect it. Many times she is teasing you, sometimes in a harmless way but other times because you are not a Filipino.<br /><br />I think that unless you have a good understanding of their culture it is a good idea to hold back and not move in for that date until you know what she is up to. I say this because many times these women are married and they may just be doing that to make fun of you, the dumb foreigner, who thinks that she would go to bed with you! Get it? She is sort of making a fool out of you, so hold on to your thoughts of romance and just engage in some normal talk until you know. Better never to make a fool of yourself in a foreign country because they take face value very seriously.<br /><br />You will find it wise to be polite at all times and don't get ruffled when they mess with you. They are doing it on purpose, but believe it or not they mess with each other all the time.<br /><br /><h3>&nbsp;Don't Judge What You Don't Know</h3>Visitors here should keep their opinions on hold and not judge too quickly. Many times the Filipinos are just sick of foreign tourists who think they are better than them because they do not come from a third world country.<br /><br />Many times the foreigners do tend to judge things by their own countries standards and ways of life but that doesn't work because this is their country and their culture is much different than yours.<br /><br />Don't assume that you are any smarter, more talented or even better educated than someone just because you think you are or because that person isn't wearing expensive clothing. Many Filipinos have more than one college degree and sometimes their wealth or connections are not so apparent.<br /><br />Even the poor girls who lack education are not actually dumb. They may be ignorant because they have no<br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-d-sA4_vU1P4/VEYMkE-f0bI/AAAAAAAAAbQ/iGbxROeviqo/s1600/philipinespoor.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="poor Filipinas" border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-d-sA4_vU1P4/VEYMkE-f0bI/AAAAAAAAAbQ/iGbxROeviqo/s1600/philipinespoor.jpg" height="213" title="poor Filipinas" width="320" /></a></div>experience but they can and will learn quickly when they want to. And you must remember that they are at least smart enough to learn more than one language. How many languages do you speak right now?<br /><br />Actually when you take the time to get to know a Philippines girl you will find they can be rather comical and fun loving. Many are good company and if you listen to their advice you may be saved a lot of trouble.<br /><h3>&nbsp; <b>Philippines Girls Advice</b></h3>&nbsp;You will need to think for yourself and use your instincts and experience to make decisions here but it is a great idea to actually hear what the girl is trying to tell you. Take the time to understand because she isn't just talking for no reason and is likely trying to spare you a hassle.<br /><br />Doesn't matter if she has no education or is poor. She knows better than you what the lowdown is and when you think about it, it is really nice of her to even tell you anything considering many Filipinos won't.<br />For that she deserves your respect at the very least.<br /><br />There is much more I can cover on this subject alone but I will end here with&nbsp; that last little praise for the Philippines girl.<br /><br />Stay tuned for more Real Dating Tips for Meeting a Philippines Girl.<br /><br />Feel free to comment or&nbsp; <br />share experiences below.Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-72909773432083699352014-10-12T14:42:00.001-07:002014-10-12T14:44:47.865-07:00Men Want You or What Men Really Want<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-G6zPSvr7_Sk/VDrzTc4ujgI/AAAAAAAAAYo/1v7915NIqMg/s1600/menwantwhat.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Men Want What?" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-G6zPSvr7_Sk/VDrzTc4ujgI/AAAAAAAAAYo/1v7915NIqMg/s1600/menwantwhat.jpg" height="150" title="Men Want What?" width="200" /></a>Girls, today I have decided to give you a man's honest opinion about the question you always ask. What <br />Men Really Want?<br />Fortunately, for women the answers are easier than it is for men to understand the same question. While I won't be writing everything that a woman should know about us, I will give a few good pointers to help you out.<br /><br /><a name='more'></a><br />Bear in mind that everyone is an individual and what works for one person may not work for another. I may be making a few people mad, but in order to honestly answer such a question, I don't think that it is easily avoided. <br />Honestly, men can be summed up really easily. <br /><br /><i>Treat Men How You Want to Be Treated by Them</i><br /><br /><h4>&nbsp;Quick Overview</h4><i>-Men want the real you </i><br /><i>-Ditch the canned advice</i><br /><i>-Don't tell people everything he does or says</i><br /><i>-Don't be to manipulative </i><br /><i>-Don't be to judgmental</i><br /><i>-Be more honest</i><br /><i>-Sex, meet him halfway </i><br /><br /><br /><h4>Men Want the Real You</h4>Believe it or not, we want the real you. We don't care about the model with the huge breasts in the tabloid or the current female sex symbol. Most other men that I have talked to admit that they actually like smaller breasts better than those huge ones you girls are so jealous of.<br />We don't understand why you women are always so caught up in the hype the media generates. We know that it is only hype and unless you own those companies or are filthy rich, why would anyone care about it. It will not pertain to our lives anyway. We don't see why girls even waste time worrying about those things. Most men are not that shallow and would probably never want to marry that woman anyway.<br />&nbsp;Honestly, I will tell you that I find normal girls I see in real life much more attractive than a centerfold or bunny. And guess what? Take off the models make-up and the photo effects and she is no prettier than you are! I am serious about that.<br />We prefer a woman who takes care of herself and is fun to be around. We don't need or even want you to be perfect. A lot of times, it is your physical imperfections that a man finds attractive and even sexually arousing. <br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-bWfiJiMOQyY/VDrzyYivYKI/AAAAAAAAAYw/quGXgCLVAAs/s1600/heartssand.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Heart of Love" border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-bWfiJiMOQyY/VDrzyYivYKI/AAAAAAAAAYw/quGXgCLVAAs/s1600/heartssand.jpg" height="213" title="Heart of Love" width="320" /></a><br />That is really what a man wants. A woman who will continue to take care of herself and be sexy because she loves her man and wants him to get horny when he sees her. Not a woman who is caught up in advertisements or one who gave up on her body just because she got married or had a child.<br />I think that coming home to a woman who makes an effort to be sexy for me is a great turn on and is far more desirable than a Victoria Secret model and I think most other men would agree. He married you or is going out with you isn't he?<br />I am sort of repeating myself, but actually, we would be happier if girls didn't place so much importance in those media types of things. You girls say that you feel pressured to be like those models but like I just said, we don't really want that. That is just media hype and most guys never really wanted any woman to be pressured or to feel bad about themselves.<br />So next time you see something and start feeling bad remember, most men don't actually want you to be like that girl in the advertisement anyway. They just want you to be you and be happy, because then we are happier as a result.<br />This leads into my next pointer.<br /><h4>Ditch the Canned Advice </h4>First off, forget what you read in those magazines, especially the gossip kind. Most of that is just information and not really any good. In fact, it is rare that I find their advice about men to be accurate at all. It almost seems as if they got the information from a soap opera or something. I can remember, even as a kid, thinking it was sad that girls everywhere were basing their lives off of what was written in an issue of the latest teen or gossip magazine. I know they did too because I would hear girls talking about it!<br />Men like a woman who can make up her own mind and not depend on what her friends think. Actually, we really don't like it at all. Here we are asking you for a date and you can't even give an answer because you don't know what so and so will have to say about it.<br />&nbsp;Or, after we have already slept together, we want to take you to a lake for the weekend. Just the two of us. But we have to wait until you ask your friend Bernice, who is an expert on men, what she thinks about it.&nbsp; Stop asking other people what you should do. Put yourself in our shoes. If a man had to ask someone else what he should do in every situation, what would you think? You would think he isn't really a man and that there is no way he could be relied upon to stand firm when needed.<br />&nbsp;It makes us think that it isn't safe to date you because who will be deciding the course of the relationship? Us or your friend? It is very insulting and maddening to know that you are somehow basing our dating life on what somebody else told you to do. Where are you in this? Where is your own mind?<br />We wonder why you can't figure it out on your own?<br />Why do you always make a mountain out of a mole hill. Or worse, make an issue when there was none to begin with.<br /><h4>Don't Repeat Everything</h4>Going along with what I just mentioned is the fact that so many of you talk about everything we do or say.<br />We get the feeling sometimes that it isn't safe to share our thoughts or desires with you because once we are <br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Hr7X_8Qq65o/VDr1G4YggpI/AAAAAAAAAZI/7qmybNA8ys4/s1600/twopiecespuzzle.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Two is One" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Hr7X_8Qq65o/VDr1G4YggpI/AAAAAAAAAZI/7qmybNA8ys4/s1600/twopiecespuzzle.jpg" height="213" title="Two is One" width="320" /></a></div>done talking, you are telling the whole world about what we said.<br />Basically, whether he admits to it or not, he is probably disappointed or even a little hurt by the fact that you won't regard what he tells you as private. You are also giving a mixed message by doing that. On one hand you say that you want to be more intimate and closer in the relationship, but as soon as he opens up, you are spilling your guts to all your friends or even worse, your mother.<br />&nbsp;Stop a moment and think about it. Do you like it when someone tells others everything you do or say? Especially if your boyfriend were doing it? As I said at the start of this post,Treat men how you want to be treated. Period.<br />This happens a lot especially if there is a disagreement. Seems as soon as we have a differing opinion, you are on the phone and reporting us, you need advice on how to deal with us..... &nbsp; Deal with us? How insulting is that?<br />&nbsp;Part of the trouble with telling other people that you had a disagreement is because although you may not be saying that your boyfriend is bad, the person that you are talking to may make that assumption and start giving the guy heat about it or even start spreading rumors. It may sound silly, but this type of thing can ruin a relationship faster than cheating.<br />So don't make a huge deal out of a little spat or disagreement. We feel this is childish and basically start to wonder if it is worth investing our time or emotions in you.<br />Keep in mind that I am not saying that you cannot talk about us at all. Or that you cannot talk to others about your problems or that if you don't feel safe that you cannot mention it. If you don't feel safe then get help immediately.<br />What I am saying, is to think before you tell others what he talks about or about every little disagreement. Just because we have a spat doesn't mean that the whole world has to know about it.<br /><h4>Don't Judge</h4>Stop being to judgmental about what he says or does. Women seem to form snap judgments that most of the time are wrong. At least not 100% accurate and we as men, don't often get the chance to explain to unbiased ears. Or for that matter, don't really see why we should explain it.<br />So many times I have had girls wanting to know why I did something or said something only to realize they <br />were judging me in a wrongful way.<br />So stop relying on your snap judgments and thinking they are correct, you aren't psychic and you really have no right to judge us anyway.<br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-gEOv464WTxA/VDr0LfzHlfI/AAAAAAAAAY8/wtNH8nuIKTE/s1600/onlinedate.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Time Alone" border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-gEOv464WTxA/VDr0LfzHlfI/AAAAAAAAAY8/wtNH8nuIKTE/s1600/onlinedate.jpg" height="213" title="Time Alone" width="320" /></a></div><h4>Time to Yourself </h4>We agree, take time to yourself and have some space, we want it too. Just don't let it be to see other guys unless you tell us first. Otherwise, most of us don't mind the fact that you are doing something else. We want to do other things as well and we know that you cannot be together 24 hours a day or it hurts a relationship.<br /><h4>Lies or Half-truths or Trust</h4>I will tell you why so many men get distrustful. It is for the simple fact that so many girls will lie or be so misleading about virtually anything.<br />We ask a simple question and are met with answers that amount to boldfaced lies or misdirection. If you have nothing to hide then why lie about so much? We understand freedom, but if you need to lie about what you ate for lunch, then we begin to realize that you don't want to share with us and that maybe we should find another girl. After all, why be misleading if there is nothing to hide?<br />Like I said above about having your own time and space. We want that too, but just be honest about it if you are going to be interested in another man. Otherwise, we don't have any trouble with it.<br />I am serious. Be more honest and most men will be more than happy to meet halfway with you. Again, put yourself in the other person's shoes. If I lie about everything to you, are you going to trust me? Nope.<br /><h4>Sex</h4>Don't use sex against us. Some women will hold out on having sex with a man who they profess to love, just because she is upset about something he will or won't do.<br />I don't want to go to your mothers house so you won't have sex with me. This is sort of low. And men know it.<br />If you want a trusting and happy relationship then don't use sex as a way to get what you want. Eventually, even the dumbest man realizes it and will not be happy.<br />No relationship is going to be very trusting when one partner uses something against the other to get a desired result. Ever.<br />Be open and honest with the guy and don't be judgmental. Be nice and open to ideas. In time, a man will realize that you are cool and sex with you is not a problem. Most men are more than willing to satisfy you, or at least try to, so don't make it so hard to.<br />One thing is don't act like he is such a rotten lover when you know that you actually orgasm and cum with what he does. Some men feel that this is a stupid thing to do and don't like it. It amounts to not playing mind games and being more real, to some men anyways.<br />As to performance issues and such, I don't want to get in depth because this isn't that type of article. I will say that if you don't like something then nicely tell him about it.<br />If he tells you something he doesn't like or that he would like, don't act like he is ripping your heart out or is a total asshole. React the way you would want him to react. Sometimes, it may be a good idea to bring up the subject when you are not going to have sex right at the moment. This way, there are not so many emotions and hormones flowing and a desired result is more likely to be achieved.<br />Don't stop having oral sex because he said you smelled bad once. Chances are, you have told him that he stinks more than once and he had to take it. Basically, all most men want is for a woman to perform normal hygiene and keep clean down there. We don't usually mind a little smell, we are more used to it than you may realize. Again, react how you would want him to react. Don't get to mad when you read this!<br />We do like variety. Try not to be to stodgy and be open to trying different things. You may be surprised about how happy he is with you.<br /><h4>Arguments and Testing</h4><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-evbYl2PZPpI/VDr0j5us-eI/AAAAAAAAAZA/aMsLKmzDUSU/s1600/handwrittenthankyou.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Thank You for Being You" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-evbYl2PZPpI/VDr0j5us-eI/AAAAAAAAAZA/aMsLKmzDUSU/s1600/handwrittenthankyou.jpg" height="228" title="Thank You for Being You" width="320" /></a></div>Don't start little fights or problems when there were none and don't test him all the time. We get tired of it and so would you. We know you are women and are made differently but enough is enough. It isn't fair to come to see you after a hard day at work and you start in with some kind of test to see how I will react. That is very insulting and most of us hate it.<br />Maybe you don't realize it, but he was waiting all day just to see your smile and when he shows up you started a fight. It can be a big bummer and a real let down. I waited all day to see your pretty smile and all you did was yell at me about something. To much of this and I will be gone for good. Besides, some days I will react differently than other days so it isn't even a true assessment of a man.<br />If there really is something that he did wrong. Please wait for awhile and don't unleash it as soon as he opens the door. You know how you feel if he does that to you so consider before you jump on his case. Otherwise, it can make a person dread going home.<br /><br />Lighten up and don't be to serious all the time. Make some jokes and laugh with him. Don't be that girl who always is so serious and is going to worry about what will happen tomorrow, <i>all the time</i>! You need to be able to loosen up a bit and have some fun as well. It is a real downer trying to be with a woman who is constantly worried about something. I think the way some woman worry is one of the bigger factors in relationships with men falling part. Some women just worry to much and drive a man away. Your worry causes you to lecture or scold and take things to seriously. Get a grip and loosen up because life is unpredictable and there is only so much that you can do about it.<br /><br />To wrap it up, put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself, would you want to be treated the way you are treating him right now? If the answer is no, then it is a good idea not to do that anymore. Do this more often and you may find yourself with a much happier man. A happier man is what you want on many levels.<br /><br />Well, that was a short version, of my version, about what men really want. Maybe some of you are upset or don't agree with me and that is OK. We are all different and we all see things differently. Mostly from a biased point of view!<br />Please don't take this as medical advice or base your life off of it. I wrote what I believe is true in many situations and for many people.If it fits your situation, I have no idea. But, if you try what I have written, then I am sure at the very least, it will cause no troubles with your man and may help you in your relationship.<br />&nbsp;At least I hope it gives you an understanding, that I feel, that although we are different sexes, we are still human and still are in many ways the same. Meaning, we tend to want to be treated as good as we treat other people.I think that one thing alone would stop a lot of the problems we have.<br /><br />If you stop and think about it. Isn't it common sense?<br />Feel free to comment below. I hope you do!<br /><br /><br />Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-14337692976070667772014-09-26T07:32:00.002-07:002014-10-12T02:14:16.651-07:00Heartbroken Dating<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-dLehuig5yIA/VCU9tvdrIDI/AAAAAAAAAXA/4ca1FLIbMYI/s1600/iloveme.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-dLehuig5yIA/VCU9tvdrIDI/AAAAAAAAAXA/4ca1FLIbMYI/s1600/iloveme.jpg" height="225" width="320" /></a></div>Many experts tell us that we should not date after a painful rejection and loss. We should wait until we feel better and are all healed.<br />I feel it is ofte<span style="font-size: small;">n times beneficial </span>to go through<b> heartbroken dating</b>.<br />Here is why I think we should be more socially <u><b><span style="font-size: large;"></span></b></u>active and dating right after those heartbreaks.&nbsp;<span style="font-size: large;"><u><b> </b></u></span><span style="font-size: small;"><u><b>&nbsp;</b></u></span><br /><br /><a name='more'></a><h4><span style="font-size: small;"><u><b>Opportunities for Love</b></u></span></h4>&nbsp; Guess what?<br />We have many more options open to us than we realize. The trouble is that we don't recognize these new dating opportunities because we feel bad.<br />&nbsp;&nbsp;Feeling down and depressed tends to color our visual perception and limit our thinking. It isn't healthy to spend to much time alone when we are heartbroken because many times, we wind up feeling more sorry for ourselves than we should.<br />Better to be seeing members of the opposite sex and start to realize that there are other attractive bodies out there.<br />Sometimes, if we are left alone to our negative thoughts we can start believing them. We may start to feel that all members of the opposite sex are bad or may cause us pain. This is an extreme example but the idea should make sense. Meeting new people shows us that there is hope for new love to grow.<br />That is really an important part of why I feel we should go through that heartbroken dating. So we can't sit all alone and develop a negative pattern. That isn't healthy at all.<br />I am not saying that I think we should have a serious relationship right away, but that we should start dating and enjoying ourselves.<br />I have noticed in my own life that soon after rejection and loss there's usually someone who comes along and is willing to get to know me.<br />They give all the signals and even make a tentative move to see if I am responsive. <span style="font-size: large;">Of course not!</span> I was feeling bad about myself and life. I was wrapped up in my pain and misery. I would not give the person a chance. I was too worried about showing my shameful and unattractive loneliness to risk talking to them.<br /><h4><u><b>Love Nurse Nightengale</b></u></h4>Maybe these girls could tell I needed a little inspiration and were there to give me a boost. The way sometimes girls do.<br />I know that women tend to avoid men who seem to have that weakness but I decided that sometimes, once in awhile, they will try to uplift a man and put him back on his feet. In a way that is very endearing. Seeming a nurse Nightengale to a foolish man.<br />Maybe they were actually attracted to me and genuinely interested. I think this is more often the case. As I said, they were making all the moves or were giving real signs of being open to me.<br /><h4><u><b>Don't Be Sad</b></u></h4><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-OtHRRbMCcSE/VCU-e6miEGI/AAAAAAAAAXI/Vy9hQ_-48QA/s1600/depression.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-OtHRRbMCcSE/VCU-e6miEGI/AAAAAAAAAXI/Vy9hQ_-48QA/s1600/depression.jpg" height="320" width="277" /></a></div>Sad.<br />&nbsp;Sad I am to have blown my chances just because I felt lesser or undesirable. I was projecting, without meaning to, my fears and negative emotions onto those women and they did nothing to deserve it.<br />Sad as well, because in all honesty, those were rather attractive girls. Ones that a man is happy to have at his side. Ones that are indeed a confidence booster and ego builder.<br />Sad because under normal circumstances I would be wanting to hop into bed immediately with her. Sad because they were better looking than the girl who had caused my pain to begin with.<br />You know what? Even worse than their good looks was the fact that they seemed sincerely honest and actually like very nice women.<br />The kind of personality that I would choose over looks any day of the week. The kind of decent woman who I would want to date.<br />I was a shame to myself to blow these chances of getting to know these great girls. To this day, I am more ashamed of blowing these chances than I am of losing a girl or being heartbroken.<br /><h4><u><b>Be Socially Active</b></u></h4><span style="font-weight: normal;">I know that sometimes we need time to get over pain and be ready to date again</span>, I think a better solution to our love woes is to get right back out there and start dating new people. My reasoning is this, the more we isolate ourselves from the opposite sex, the more we may feel sorry for ourselves.<br />We will remain lonely and the negative thoughts and emotions won't go away because we are in fact alone. In these circumstances, we have to much time to think and brood with nothing to distract us. <br />If we are out and about in public, we don't have so much time to spend with those bad emotions. Eventually we can realize that there are other singles that we feel attractionThat means there is more than that one person for us. We can see that though we thought we had love before, it wasn't well grounded in reality.<br /><h4>Do We Really Want Life Long Commitment?</h4>Honestly, we don't really need to be head over heels in love anyway.<br />By cultivating the attitude of having fun meeting new people and experiencing new things, we can realize that we don't really want to be stuck on that <i>"big love thing"</i> anyway. If it comes along then fine but if it doesn't, what's wrong with cultivating new relationships and connections? Nothing.<br />The fact is love doesn't always last forever and long term relationships and marriage is hard work. To be totally honest, marriage is rather painful at times and isn't always as pleasant as it seems from the outside.<br />Loneliness is sometimes caused because we don't have anyone who we are connecting with. But, if we are socializing and dating then we find somebody to spend time with.<br />It may not be marriage or the <i>"big L"</i> word, but it is companionship.<br />That is what many of us are really after. Companionship, not necessarily a life long commitment.<br />A life long commitment means that we, as well as our partners, are to be committed to the relationship and not to ourselves. This is where our trouble tends to come from. We want others committed to us but after a few years, do we ourselves still want to be totally committed to them.<br />I am not just talking about sex. I mean about everything there is in life. Because that is what those relationships can be like. Love, money, housing, entertainment, medical expenses, vacations and everything must be considered with the other person involved.<br /><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-rKxm_pfd3As/VCV-QJu6zdI/AAAAAAAAAYY/vnjaoMwKtYA/s1600/lonelywoman.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Lonely Woman" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-rKxm_pfd3As/VCV-QJu6zdI/AAAAAAAAAYY/vnjaoMwKtYA/s1600/lonelywoman.jpg" height="320" title="Lonely Woman" width="213" /></a>What I mean is that after awhile many people would sort of like to just worry about themselves, even if they are in a love relationship. They just want to leave their mess on the floor until the next day or wash clothes tomorrow or trim the yard next week.<br />&nbsp;Instead you have a partner insisting that you wash your clothes, mow the yard and vacuum the floor right <span style="font-size: large;">now! Whew! Back off </span>and give me some space!<br />And while you are at it, I would like to sleep alone tonight in front of the television, with an open can of pop beside me. Not hearing a word from anybody about it.<br />That is why I mention that these long-term commitments or marriage can be a lot more than we bargained for in the beginning, and why they are not necessary for a loving and even faithful relationship.<br />That is why I say that a lot of us may actually be happier with companionship.<br />That is why I said we don't really need to be head-over-heels in love 24 hours a day. Believe me, no matter how much in love you feel, if you are around the same person all the time, you will need some time away.<br /><h4><span style="font-size: small;"><u><b>Be Responsible for Yourself</b></u></span></h4>When all is said and done, we are responsible for our own lives and happiness. Just because we are hurt doesn't mean that we can give up on living or that the pain will never end. Pain eventually passes and the love you feel for that person, who is gone, does fade.<br />&nbsp;Maybe, we just hold onto a desire for true love, only they were not true love to begin with.<br />After a period of time, we even wonder why we loved that person so much as to think they are the reason for our very breath!<br />Actually, after a long enough&nbsp; time passes, we tend to feel foolish for even thinking those thoughts. You are the reason I breath? Silly.<br />Life is too short to waste time feeling down in the dumps. Opportunities come when least expected and we should be ready for them. Your love left you but you are still alive, so it is your responsibility to take care of yourself.<br />Instead of moaning in agony, I think it is better to dust ourselves off, brush our teeth, go out and start dating new singles. Many times the people we meet are more fun than the ones who are gone and we can wind up far happier because we realize that we don't need one particular person to hold onto forever.<br /><br />So next time you feel down because someone left or rejected you, Clear your head a little and go out and meet some new ones.<br />You never know, like me, you may find some really hot person staring you in the face and just waiting for you to say hi.<br />Don't blow your chance, take it!<br /><br />Please share you experiences or thoughts below!<br /><br /><br />Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-55062870030820746562014-09-16T15:48:00.000-07:002014-09-26T03:27:17.008-07:00Costume Dating. Not Just for Losers<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-_awcIL535hM/VCU_S4-aVTI/AAAAAAAAAXU/VEvsYMN1pnA/s1600/costumedating.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Costumed Lovers" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-_awcIL535hM/VCU_S4-aVTI/AAAAAAAAAXU/VEvsYMN1pnA/s1600/costumedating.jpg" height="320" title="Costumed Lovers" width="240" /></a>They continually get a bad rap. Everywhere they go, people point and give them strange looks. Do they<br />care? No! They are people who are making their own dating expression by costume dating and it's not just for losers.<br /><br />What I mean is that if you actually take the time and talk to them, you find out that many costume daters are professionals and have a college education too. They may be making more money per week than you or I am!<br /><br />Personally, I have to applaud singles who are brave enough to go out in public dressed in a costume with no&nbsp; party to go to. It takes guts, free thinking and a streak of independence to walk around dressed like a mascot for a sports team or a creature from the world of faerie.<br /><br />I have gotten to know a group a cosplay artists and I will tell you that they are normal people who just happen to love costuming as a favorite character. As I mentioned before, they are all college educated and manage to hold good paying jobs.<br /><br />Dressing-up, whether for cosplay or dating requires time, skill and money. The costumes don't make themselves so a person must either buy them, which can get very expensive, or make your own. A cheaper alternative is to check out discount Halloween and party stores, but most of the time what is available to purchase lacks what you need to complete your ensemble.<br />Imagine putting on the make-up and body paint, arranging a wig or some form of head gear and turning your kitchen into a work room. The patience and skill required is commendable, not to mention the fortitude it takes to tramp around all day with possible 10lbs. or more of extra clothing on.<br /><br /><b><u>8 Good Points for Costume Dating</u> </b><br /><br />1. When you think about it, it is kinda hot. If you are a woman then you may be paired with a dashing hero from a romantic adventure manga and if you are a guy then a beautiful wood nymph or Lady Vampire.<br />2. You won't need to worry that the clothes you wore out last weekend are the same you are wearing this weekend.<br />3. No need to worry about someone that you know pointing their finger because if you are dressed-up they probably won't recognize you anyway!<br />4. Conversation must be easier since this is so new and different from the norm.<br />5. Going to a costume party? Sounds fun, when's the last time a lot of us have actually done that?<br />6. If they introduce you to other costumers, you may meet some rather cool new contacts who just happen to be very talented.<br />7. At the very least it seems like a fun and different way to break up a "same old thing type of routine".<br />8. Going along with number 7 I think it can be beneficial to anyone to experience new things because it may just break a negative or unproductive pattern that you have. Such as being way to bored with a current type of dating or person. Feeling down because you are not having any fun or new experiences. Or if you are just plain feeling the blues, then I feel doing something different is just what you need to put you back in the swing of things.<br /><br />I am not telling you that I think we all should devote ourselves to putting on strange outfits and going out in public but that it seems an OK way to add some variety and fun into your life. Maybe, just try it or do it occasionally for a change of pace.<br /><br />Some people raise issues about the types of personalities that may participate in these kinds of match-ups but I don't think it is any different than any form of interest or at most, fetish. Granted, you may want to watch out for signs of strange behavior, especially if you don't know the person but that is true no matter what you are doing. <br /><br />As I mentioned the group of cosplay artists may tend to date amongst themselves but are actually totally normal and you would never know they dressed up if they didn't tell you. You would never know.<br /><br />In closing I will mention that I am not an affiliate of any program promoting this type of dating. I am posting this because I think it is interesting and has potential value in more than one way, to many individuals.<br /><br />I think that I would sort of enjoy walking around with a girl dressed up in Gothic clothing or a faerie outfit. How about you?<br /><br />Leave your comments below and make a dating expression!Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-44521388187637529992014-09-05T10:31:00.002-07:002014-10-27T22:52:10.549-07:00Latest Trends in Dating for 2014<div style="text-align: right;"></div><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-evviQVg6glM/VCVBtAvXdVI/AAAAAAAAAXo/3RemsBCye70/s1600/datingtrends.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Dating Trends" border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-evviQVg6glM/VCVBtAvXdVI/AAAAAAAAAXo/3RemsBCye70/s1600/datingtrends.jpg" height="240" title="Dating Trends" width="320" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Try New Ways to Date</td></tr></tbody></table><span style="font-size: large;">Could these things be an eye opener?</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;Or the start of a new and fulfilling chapter in your singles life?&nbsp;</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">The </span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>latest trends in dating for 2014</b></span> certainly show that many of us are willing to expand our horizons and at least try to have a little fun before we settle down and get hitched.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">While many of these current trends may not appeal to you there are sure to be some going on that will, and personally, I thought it may be a good way to meet some new single friends and have a good time.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;I have always believed that it is good for us to try out new things and experience different aspects of what we refer to as life and as long as you are personally OK with what you are doing, why not? Even if you decide that something wasn't for you to do full time, once or twice won't hurt us, will it?</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><b>Dare to Date?</b></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Actually, I sort of like some of these crazy trends<b> </b>that they are writing about. Some may seem silly but if you are free and single then what is the harm of an airport date on a layover or the faux girlfriend?&nbsp;</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">It is true that if a lonely guy has a nice nice looking woman with him, he gets a lot more attention, and this may help him find a real girlfriend. Maybe he just needed a confidence boost.&nbsp;</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Sounds different but if you don't mind being matched with a look a like of the opposite sex then you may as well try it out!</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><b>Dating by Popularity</b></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">While a part of me has always been to not follow the crowd, I think that in dating it isn't always a bad choice<b>.</b></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">People tend to want to try the current social trends and activities they are hearing about so it is a good idea to take your date somewhere they will appreciate.&nbsp;</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">You may have a good time as well and you will be keeping up on those latest fads that everyone is talking about. At least you won't appear to have lived in a closet for the last 5 years.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">And some of the latest dating trends are even fun!</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><b>Exerdating! Maybe I am moving to New York</b> </span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">I sort of like the thought of an exercise date.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;Oh, not always because sometimes I may want to act different while working out than I would in public but it is appealing anyway.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">As the author wrote, the fact that you are dressed for exercise and not for a normal date is sort of cool. Not to much make-up or layered suits can give a better look than if we were out to dinner.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">I think it could be an incredible turn-on or turn-off to be grunting next to a new date. If you are into each other then it must go further but if you find that you don't like the way the person acts or looks then I think it would end fast.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">In a way I agree that it is possible to tell if your personalities would be a match with this type of date and as I mentioned I would try it for sure.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-size: large;"><b>7 Uncool Dating Trends</b>(see clip below) </span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">On the other side of the coin there are those trends in society that can hurt people and does. As these gain in popularity, the victims are often times, at best, ignored or even made fun of and insulted. Some of these could even wind up causing worse damage than that if it was taken far enough or the wrong ears and eyes took note.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">As an example, taking snap shots of other people in private moments or airing the "news" publicly on twitter or other social networks. What kind of harm can come to people as a result of this type of behavior? Somebody could lose their friends and even family or job if that was taken far enough. Personally, I don't think I would care to date or associate with anyone who did feel it was acceptable to broadcast your private life. If they feel the need then why not photo themselves and not others.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Some of these harmful trends are actually childish and immature coming from an adult and is just utterly stupid.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">As in most of these cases, if such things were done to them, they would probably cry the loudest!</span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><b>Check out the Dating Cures we have clipped for you below</b> to read the whole articles I have been discussing</span><br /><br /><script src="http://bundlr.com/assets/iframe.js?id=latest-dating-trends&amp;view=timeline&amp;order=inverse&amp;unbranded=true" type="text/javascript"></script><noscript><a href="http://bundlr.com/b/latest-dating-trends" target="_blank">"Latest Dating Trends" on Bundlr</a></noscript><span style="font-size: large;">Hope you enjoy our latest Dating Cures (dating clips) from Dating Expression.&nbsp;</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;">Please feel free to share and comment below.</span>Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-61168225557745585212014-08-24T11:33:00.002-07:002014-09-26T03:33:10.951-07:00Tagalog Love and Dating Expressions<div style="text-align: right;"></div><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-F2eHrqjqD2c/VCVA2Xd-dKI/AAAAAAAAAXg/fLAIVVte-S8/s1600/tagalogloveexpressions.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-F2eHrqjqD2c/VCVA2Xd-dKI/AAAAAAAAAXg/fLAIVVte-S8/s1600/tagalogloveexpressions.jpg" /></a>People who plan on dating, forming relationships or even just spending a good amount of time in the <b> Tagalog love and dating expressions</b> is a sweet and thoughtful way to show your new Filipina that you think highly enough of her to take the time and study those Tagalog love phrases.<br />Philippines will find it wise to pick up some of the local dialect. Knowing some<br /><a name='more'></a><br /><h4>&nbsp;<b><span style="font-weight: normal;">Filipino Dialects</span></b></h4>Tagalog is the National language and is spoken by a lot of Pilipinos but not by everyone. Outside of the Manila area you will find that there are many different dialects spoken and sometimes the residents of one province doesn't know even Tagalog all that well. This is because many Provincial areas speak their own.<br /><br />A real word of warning though, other than Tagalog, it will be hard to find much in the way of actual printed books to study. For example, you would find it hard to find any books on learning Visayan and a best bet is to check the local tourism office for a booklet of phrases or the college and ask for language transcripts.<br /><br />Cebuano is one of the other most common languages spoken in the Philippines and Cebu is one of the larger metro areas. When planning a visit to the Cebu area, you will be able to find some Cebuano to English dictionaries and I remember there used to be a few smaller books on Cebuano as well. An internet search is helpful to get primers because there is at least Tagalog and Cebuano online.<br /><br /><h4>Tagalog Love and Dating Expressions </h4>Once you meet a sweet Philippines girl you can take the time to learn some <b>Tagalog love and dating phrases</b>. While to some people here it won't mean much, to others it does mean something and is worth doing. Really worth it if you are going to stay here awhile.<br /><br /><h4><u>Tagalog Expressions&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; English Equivalent </u></h4>&nbsp;&nbsp; <br /><ul></ul><u>Aking&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; My</u><br /><u>Sa iyo &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; You </u><br /><u>Ako or Akong &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; I </u><br /><u>Oo&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Yes</u><br /><u>Hindi&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; No</u><br /><u>Maganda&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; Good</u><br /><u>Palaam&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; Goodbye</u><br /><u>Po or Ho&nbsp; (Polite words used to add courtesy to expressions)</u><br /><u>Bee&nbsp; (common with younger singles) &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; Baby</u><br /><u>Beh&nbsp; (common with younger singles)&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; Baby</u><br /><u>Gusto &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; To want or To like </u><br /><u>Gusto kita (Kita meaning from I to you)&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; I like you</u><br />&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <br /><u>mahal&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; Love</u><br /><u>ibig&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; Love</u><br /><u>mahal ko&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; My love</u><br /><u>Irog&nbsp; (rarely used, is old fashioned) &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; My love </u><br /><u>Mahal kita&nbsp; (Mahal is love, kita stands for from I to you)&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; I love you</u><br /><u>iniibig kita &nbsp; (This is sometimes considered</u><br /><u>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; old fashioned or out of style) &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; I love you</u><br /><u>Minamahal kita&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; I love you</u><br /><u>Mamahalin kita magpakailan man &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; I will love you forever</u><br /><u>Mahal din kita&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; I love you too</u><br /><u>Ikaw ang mahal ko&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; You are the one I love </u><br /><u>Sobrang mahal kita &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; I truly love you</u><br /><u>Miss kita &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; I miss you</u><br /><u>Miss na miss kita &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; I really miss you</u><br /><u>Miss kita talaga &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; I really miss you</u><br /><u>May gusto ako sa iyo &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; I have a crush on you</u><br /><u>Iniisip kita &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; I'm thinking of you</u><br /><u>Ingat ka &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; Take care </u><br /><br /><br />This is just a partial list of some basic Tagalog love and dating expressions and we will be adding more in the future. Just remember to be kind and thoughtful to distinguish yourself from the other visitors to the country who may not be so.<br /><br />Practice beforehand and make sure to learn at least 2 love phrases a day and in no time you will be able to converse in your Filipina's language. Doing this will make your time here a lot more enjoyable and less confusing. You won't be so much in the dark as to what is going on in the surroundings and you should be able to communicate with Philippines girls much easier.<br /><br />You will realize if you plan on staying for awhile just how much of a good idea it is to start learning right away.<br /><br />&nbsp;Remember to check back as we will be adding more language primers.<br /><br />&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-7824940204455165432014-08-23T23:38:00.000-07:002014-09-10T07:26:49.668-07:00Get Married or Stay Single. Facts and Opinion<div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-AlhRCMfyC3o/VBBfcRNSzCI/AAAAAAAAAV8/GQZfQ-wm5N0/s1600/married-orsingle.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Married or Single" border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-AlhRCMfyC3o/VBBfcRNSzCI/AAAAAAAAAV8/GQZfQ-wm5N0/s1600/married-orsingle.png" height="249" title="Married or Single" width="320" /></a><b>Get married or stay single</b>? Which would make me happier? I have wondered this question at some points in my life and I am sure many of you have too. While browsing the internet, we see all kinds of people writing all kinds of stuff about how much better life is once you get married and others write about how it is great to be single and dating.<br />I decided to do some research for us about<b> getting married and staying single</b>. The point is to provide <br /><a name='more'></a>some facts taken from statistics and real life experiences. Granted we need to take all advice, stories and even statistics with a grain of salt, there must be some valuable information for us.<br /><br /><h4><b>Marriage for the Girls</b></h4>A lot of us may feel pressured to get married and settle down. Raise the family and satisfy the demands placed on us by our own families and society.<br />&nbsp;Most of these people tend to be women. I sort of feel for girls in this regard, as they seem to take the brunt of this. Their friends and associates always carping and making silly jibes about not having a child yet or not being able to land a man for life. Not to mention they have the biological clock that is urging them to procreate and usually this means marriage.<br />(Although on a little bit of a side note, I have brought this up to a few different women and they all said that the biological baby clock wasn't as big a factor as we sometimes here it is. However, I also have heard a lot of women say they want to get married because they are getting older and they want to have babies!)<br /><b> </b><br /><ul><li><span style="background-color: white;">&nbsp;<span style="color: #20124d;"><b>Marriages Started Through Friends = 63%</b></span></span></li><b></b><li><b><span style="background-color: white;">&nbsp;<span style="color: #20124d;">Adult Americans that are Single = 44%</span></span></b></li></ul><span style="font-size: x-small;">Dating/Relationship Statistics - Statistic Brain</span><br /><span style="font-size: x-small;">&nbsp;2013 Statistic Brain Research Institute, publishing as Statistic Brain.</span><br /><a href="http://www.statisticbrain.com/dating-relationship-stats/"><span style="font-size: x-small;">http://www.statisticbrain.com/dating-relationship-stats/</span></a><br /><span style="font-size: x-small;">&nbsp;Source: MSNBC Survey, eZine Research Date: 1.1.2014</span><br /><br /><ul><li><span style="color: #20124d;"><b>Married Men who feel Religion is Very Important = 50.9%</b></span></li><span style="color: #20124d;"></span><li><span style="color: #20124d;"><b>Chance that a First Marriage Will Survive 10 Years = .66%&nbsp; 1in 15</b></span></li><span style="color: #20124d;"></span><li><span style="color: #20124d;">&nbsp;<b>Birth 8+Months into Marriage = 1 in 12 </b></span></li></ul><span style="font-size: x-small;">Marriage Statistics - </span><span style="font-size: x-small;">Statistic Brain</span><span style="font-size: x-small;"> </span><br /><span style="font-size: x-small;">&nbsp;</span><span style="font-size: x-small;"> 2013 Statistic Brain Research Institute, publishing as Statistic Brain.</span><br /><a href="http://www.statisticbrain.com/marriage-statistics/"><span style="font-size: x-small;">http://www.statisticbrain.com/marriage-statistics/</span></a><br /><span style="font-size: x-small;">Source: CDC, National Survey of Family Growth Research Date: 1.1.2014</span><br /><br /><h4><b>Marriage for Men </b></h4>Men get pressured too. Mothers, fathers, friends and even bosses look at single men and urge them to raise a family. Mothers and fathers want grandchildren and some bosses look at married men as more stable and therefore more desirable for that job or promotion.<br />Society does place demands on us but ultimately it is up to us to decide what to do in our lives.<br /><br /><b> </b><br /><ul><li><span style="color: #20124d;"><b>Women Find Money To be Very Important in Relationships = 88%</b>&nbsp; </span></li><span style="color: #20124d;"></span><li><span style="color: #20124d;"><b>Number 1 Relationship Argument = Money&nbsp;</b></span></li></ul><span style="font-size: x-small;">&nbsp;Dating/Reationship Statistics - </span><span style="font-size: x-small;">Statistic Brain</span><br /><span style="font-size: x-small;">&nbsp;</span><span style="font-size: x-small;"> 2013 Statistic Brain Research Institute, publishing as Statistic Brain.</span><br /><a href="http://www.statisticbrain.com/dating-relationship-stats/"><span style="font-size: x-small;">http://www.statisticbrain.com/dating-relationship-stats/</span></a><br /><span style="font-size: x-small;">Source: MSNBC Survey, eZine Research Date: 1.1.2014</span><br /><br /><br />Marriage does have its good points. We have someone to go home to instead of the empty apartment and someone is usually there to talk with or even watch tv with. We have someone to share our beds with and don't go to sleep feeling lonely or morose because we wonder if we will ever have a spouse. Children will soon come and the place will be full of people and chattering mouths.<br /><br /><h4><b>Marriage, Money and Staying Single</b></h4><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Tqk67uQQGvs/U-uXhCyQvtI/AAAAAAAAASI/wledxtDrGxY/s1600/Marriage_Money.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Marriage and Money" border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Tqk67uQQGvs/U-uXhCyQvtI/AAAAAAAAASI/wledxtDrGxY/s1600/Marriage_Money.png" height="299" title="Marriage and Money" width="320" /></a></div>If both spouses are working then there are two incomes to use for the financial future instead of just one. With careful consideration, you two can grow your nest egg quicker and easier than by yourself. The downside of this is that you are answerable to someone else for money spent and may have to answer for that new watch you just bought or that new pair of slacks.<br />&nbsp;You won't necessarily have the same freedom you had while single and that can be an issue that crops up from time to time. Money is generally one of the leading causes of arguments in marriages so it is not an issue to be taken lightly.<br />&nbsp;You generally have to decide how you as a couple will make your budget and financial plan. This can be tricky because usually one or both of you may feel something is unfair. You are paying more than you should or paying for something that you don't want or agree with in the first place.<br />On the other hand if you are single you are only answerable to yourself and may find it a lot easier to make your budget and save for the future. You don't have to explain all your spending or why you feel you should use this bank or that one for your accounts.<br /><h4><b>&nbsp;<span style="font-weight: normal;"><b>I've Got Dirty Habits. Leave My Stuff Alone!</b></span></b></h4>Getting married means that you will need to change you ways of doing things and won't have the free time that you did before.<br />Chances are your significant other won't like the way that you do something, such as cleaning or the laundry and they will definitely have something to say about it. The fact is, we do things our own way and don't always want to hear someone else's opinion on the matter. But, in the spirit of a smooth relationship you should be flexible on things and not get excited over the other persons opinion.<br />The time that you spend now with your friends will now be spent with your spouse. No more late night parties or sporting events. At the very least the time you have for these things will drop way down and if you have children then there may be no time at all at first.<br /><b>&nbsp;</b><b>&nbsp;</b><br /><h4><b>Sexual Side of Love</b>&nbsp;</h4>Love is love and we all want it and most of us want our other half to be for us only. When you are married you are expected to have sex with that person only and forever. You should decide if you feel that this is <br /><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Qy2tYk4NxV4/U-uZDglgO1I/AAAAAAAAASQ/ERvrNM7qN30/s1600/Sexual_Freedom.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Sexual Desires" border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Qy2tYk4NxV4/U-uZDglgO1I/AAAAAAAAASQ/ERvrNM7qN30/s1600/Sexual_Freedom.png" height="320" title="Sexual Desires" width="195" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Sensual Pleasures</td></tr></tbody></table>acceptable for you. Basically, at first this may not be an issue but if you only sleep with the same person for a few years you may find that you want a new sex partner.<br />What if you meet someone that you think is so hot and have a mutual attraction too? Do you think that you will be able to say no to temptation and go home to your husband or wife? Staying single means that you can indulge in these sexual dalliances without the worry of a broken home and marriage.<br />Personally, I fell love is all well and good and I also believe that as far as sex goes, it should be discussed honestly and realistically with your partner. Can I or both of us stay monogamous or does it seem farfetched?&nbsp; <br />Is the other person even sexually compatible with you? If not, then I think I could not stand to be in a marriage with them. Spending years having unsatisfying sex with the same person seems ridiculous and I would want to know beforehand just what I am in for sexually with this love relationship.<br />Granted sex isn't everything, but it is a whole lot of something and is too important not be be discussed.<br /><br /><h4>Married Life Versus Singles Dating Life, My Opinion&nbsp;</h4>I feel that love and a monogamous marriage are a real fine thing. A woman that I feel that I am blessed to know who shares my days and my nights for the rest of our lives is a great thought. I don't however like the thought of getting married and then facing the possible future complications should it fall apart.<br />&nbsp;I like the thought of hot and erotic sex that is soulful and fulfilling and sweet and tender and raunchy and filthy with one scrumptious girl for ever. I also just don't think there is a very good chance for such and I know that marriage and real life are never as good as our inner desires.<br />Arguments, personal privacy and independence. Sex and money and children and medical bills.&nbsp; Thinking through all the angles of life single but dating, or even seeing one certain girl for a few years as a committed relationship but not getting married sounds much better to me right now than a marriage and all that it entails. Just because, if things really do fall apart, I see no reason why life should be shattered or made that much more difficult because I signed a piece of paper. That doesn't mean that I am not capable of love either, but that I feel it isn't necessary unless children are involved and that brings up a whole new side to the story that I think would fit a different post better.<br /><br />What are your thoughts and opinions on getting married or staying single? Please comment below!<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-24692990953943823202014-08-18T02:33:00.000-07:002014-08-22T06:57:02.360-07:00Dating Expression from Sampaguitas Dating<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-iXTn9cYCS08/U_G9YWNWX1I/AAAAAAAAATI/_63mcTJgSDU/s1600/New-Dating-Expression.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Dating Expression is new Sampaguitas Dating" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-iXTn9cYCS08/U_G9YWNWX1I/AAAAAAAAATI/_63mcTJgSDU/s1600/New-Dating-Expression.png" title="Dating Expression is new Sampaguitas Dating" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Welcome to Dating Expression</td></tr></tbody></table>We decided to move our domain from the old blogspot.com to our own custom domain.<br />Sampaguitas Dating changed the name of the blog to Dating Expressions as part of the new move. It was felt that the name was more expressive of the heart of what we hope to accomplish. <br /><a name='more'></a><br />We don't cover just Filipina dating or intercultural relationship issues but have been giving dating advice and news covering all topics relating to relationships of any kind.<br />&nbsp;We really enjoy covering all these subjects and helping others along the way. It has been a learning process for us as well because as we give advice and conduct our own research we learn about ourselves and our own desires and limitations.<br />Our posting will remain uninterrupted but some of the sites appearance will be changing as we incorporate new designs into it.<br /><br />Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-44239725821734135352014-08-15T08:20:00.000-07:002014-10-27T22:56:49.577-07:00Don't Listen to Dating Advice? Top Dating Tips<b>Dating advice?</b> You want some or not?<br /><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-ARstVqsm-Y4/U-2i2N0yVRI/AAAAAAAAASw/zr2ZViHjk6U/s1600/reactions.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Actions Have Reactions" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-ARstVqsm-Y4/U-2i2N0yVRI/AAAAAAAAASw/zr2ZViHjk6U/s1600/reactions.png" title="Actions Have Reactions" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">You Are in Control of Your Destiny</td></tr></tbody></table>I can give you<span style="font-size: x-large;"> the ultimate, the best in the world <b>top dating tips</b></span> that will surely save you from your current disastrous relationship.<br /><span style="font-size: x-large;">Please don't listen</span> without taking it with a grain of salt and careful consideration of your own situation.<br /><br />I recommend that if you read articles or listen to anyone, whether they are an expert relationship counselor or your mother or best friend, use this piece of dating advice before any other. <br />Surely you have already heard some pretty stupid tips from people that you have already talked to.<br /><br />As I mentioned before, always consider your own situation carefully before listening because the person giving the advice probably doesn't know all the details on what you are going through. Without knowing those small things it is actually hard to give advice that seems like the best course of action.<br />So many things lead up to a current problem and without that knowledge your adviser is in the dark.<br />Not to mention, we are not all knowing sages who are able to read or predict your future.<br /><br />Like the next posts I clipped below for you, I am glad that I always have used my head and did what I thought was best or even the only real available option when it comes to listening to others. I may value your input, but it doesn't mean I will follow it!<br /><br /><h2><u>Don't Listen to Dating Advice? Top Dating Tips</u></h2><div style="text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/paul-perkins/the-worst-dating-advice-i_b_5591962.html">You Gave Me Bad Dating Advice Man!</a>&nbsp;</span></b>&nbsp; </div><h1 class="title" style="-moz-font-feature-settings: normal; -moz-font-language-override: normal; color: #111111; direction: ltr; font-family: Georgia,Century,Times,serif; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: bold; line-height: 1.2125em; margin: 0.2em 0px 10px; padding: 0px; text-align: center; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">originally titled</span> The Worst Dating Advice I Ever Received</span></h1><div class="author blog" style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box; direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; 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margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;">I'm not saying dating is hard. After enough trial and error, most of us get the hang of it. I just didn't like the entire process -- the inherent uncertainty, the lack of clear guidelines, the seeming futility. Most of all, I disliked the constant stream of advice from friends.</div><div style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; direction: ltr; font-family: inherit; font-size: 1em; font-weight: normal; font: normal normal normal 15px/21px Georgia, Century, Times, serif; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 15px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"><b style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: bold; line-height: inherit;">While a bachelor, I never lacked dating advice.</b></div><div style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; direction: ltr; font-family: inherit; font-size: 1em; font-weight: normal; font: normal normal normal 15px/21px Georgia, Century, Times, serif; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 15px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-align: left; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;">To be sure, some of it was helpful. Most of it, though, ended up making matters worse.<br />&nbsp;<span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; border-collapse: separate; color: black; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: auto; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;">That's how I treated my friend's advice. I heard it, but I didn't accept it..<span style="font-size: large;"><b><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/paul-perkins/the-worst-dating-advice-i_b_5591962.html"><span style="font-size: small;">Full Article Here</span></a></b></span></span></span><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; border-collapse: separate; color: black; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: auto; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;">&nbsp;</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; border-collapse: separate; color: black; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: auto; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;"><i style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box; font-style: italic; line-height: inherit;">This post was previously published at<span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp;</span><a href="http://paulperkins.com/worst-dating-advice/" style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box; color: #e15440; line-height: inherit; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink">PaulPerkins.com.</a></i></span></span><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; border-collapse: separate; color: black; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: auto; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;"><i style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box; font-style: italic; line-height: inherit;">&nbsp;</i></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; border-collapse: separate; color: black; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: auto; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, FreeSans, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;"><b class="follow_twt_author" style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Georgia, Century, Times, serif; font-size: 15px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 21px;">Follow Paul Perkins on Twitter:<span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.twitter.com/prperkins" style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box; color: #e15440; line-height: inherit; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">www.twitter.com/prperkins</a></b></span></span><br /><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; border-collapse: separate; color: black; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: auto; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, FreeSans, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;"><span class="follow_twt_author" style="font-family: Georgia,Century,Times,serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;">I like what Mr. Perkins has to <span style="font-family: Arial, FreeSans, Helvetica, sans-serif;">say about his not following the advice of his friends. The tips given him were sort of silly and some were the rather generic kind we so often hear. Such as, don't look for love, it will find you and other tidbits of that sort.</span></span></span></span><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; border-collapse: separate; color: black; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: auto; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, FreeSans, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;"><span class="follow_twt_author" style="font-family: Georgia,Century,Times,serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;"><span style="font-family: Arial, FreeSans, Helvetica, sans-serif;">While we can't rush love,we can still be actively dating and meeting new people. After all, what is the fun of being single if you are not enjoying it to the fullest extent you can?&nbsp;</span></span></span></span><br /><br /><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; border-collapse: separate; color: black; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: auto; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, FreeSans, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 20px;"><span class="follow_twt_author" style="font-family: Georgia,Century,Times,serif; font-size: 15px; line-height: 21px;"><span style="font-family: Arial, FreeSans, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.sheknows.com/love-and-sex/articles/1042555/is-tv-affecting-your-love-life"><span style="font-size: large;">Just Because You Saw it on Television, Doesn't Mean it's True</span></a></span></span></span></span><br /><br /><div itemprop="name" style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box; 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display: block; font-weight: 300; line-height: 1.2em; margin: 0.5em 0px 0.35em; padding: 0px 12px;">You might want to avoid sitcoms for a while &nbsp;&nbsp; <span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; border-collapse: separate; color: black; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: x-small; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: auto; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #c0c3c4; font-family: Roboto, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; font-weight: 300;">Jul 14, 2014</span></span></h2><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 0px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-decorations-in-effect: none; 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According to her, she felt like these shows and their depicted relationships were messing with her head and her expectations for dating and love.</div><div style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box;">I remember thinking, "That's probably really smart," before returning home and turning on <i style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box;">Grey's Anatomy</i>.</div><div style="-webkit-box-sizing: border-box;">It makes sense that what we watch on television has off-screen implications, but how serious are they and what should this mean about our habits? <a href="http://www.sheknows.com/love-and-sex/articles/1042555/is-tv-affecting-your-love-life">Read it in Full Here</a><br /><br />I believe that we should always be careful about listening to advice or even believing anything just because we saw it on television or heard it on the radio. <br />May be true that watching certain shows can influence our thinking. I guess it does make sense if you consider that television often makes us laugh and cry. If it influences our emotions then I guess it can influence our thinking too.<br /><blockquote class="tr_bq">As the old saying goes,"The pen is mightier than the sword." </blockquote></div></div><br />Please feel free to comment below and share these!<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-46376744742470964352014-08-07T23:49:00.000-07:002014-09-26T03:56:56.244-07:00Is Love Doomed. Long Distance Relationship Statistics<div style="text-align: right;"></div><div style="text-align: right;"></div><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-GZEYKT8ATVQ/VCVGScm-QZI/AAAAAAAAAYI/fES7kHMvMTg/s1600/longdistancelove.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Long Distance Relationships" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-GZEYKT8ATVQ/VCVGScm-QZI/AAAAAAAAAYI/fES7kHMvMTg/s1600/longdistancelove.jpg" height="270" title="Long Distance Relationships" width="400" /></a>Is our love doomed? Can we survive a<b> long distance relationship</b>? Questions like these are getting more<br /> <br />and more common these days, especially if you are in college or just starting out.<br /><br />I can sympathize having been in this situation myself, not once but twice and I know that if you are experiencing long distance love, it isn't easy to hold it all together during this time of separation.<br /><br />I decided to do some more of my researching and found some statistics pertaining to long distance relationships that may help to show you that you are not the only one going through this.<br />&nbsp;<u><b>&nbsp;</b></u><br /><u><b>Long Distance Marriage Facts</b></u><br /><ul><li>2.9% of marriages are considered long distance</li><li>10% of marriages start as long distance</li><li>75% of engaged couples say they have been in long distance relationships</li><li>3.75 million marriages are considered long distance</li><li>14 months is average time you are apart</li></ul>&nbsp;<u><b>Long Distance Love Statistics</b></u><br /><ul><li>14 million couples claim they are in this type of relationship</li><li>32.5% of college loves are long distance</li><li>125 miles is our average distance apart</li><li>3 love letters sent each month</li></ul><u><b>Negative Sides to Long Distance Love </b></u><br /><ul><li>4.5 months is the time it takes to split-up when it isn't working out</li><li>70% fail if good planning isn't done</li><li>40% break-up</li><li>1.5 visits to each other a month</li></ul><i>I found the facts here: </i><br />Long Distance Relationship Statistics<br />Research Date is 4-28-2014 <br />2013 Statistic Brain Research Institute, publishing as Statistic Brain<br /><a href="http://www.statisticbrain.com/long-distance-relationship-statistics/" target="_blank">http://www.statisticbrain.com/long-distance-relationship-statistics/</a><br /><br />As we can see from the statistics, it is not uncommon to be involved in a long distance romance, especially if you are in college or newly married. Obviously,this makes sense considering we get involved with someone before we are even enrolled in school and sometimes our occupations keep us apart somewhat at first.<br /><br />I would like to give some short, long distance relationship advice if I can.<br />For starters, if you don't think you guys can survive being apart, it may be easier on both of you to agree to see other people or just break-up for the time being. If your love is still there then you can always get back together. I would advise this because basically we live in a world that doesn't wait and do you think your partner or you will wait that long? If you are apart then there are many opportunities to meet other people and even date them. Temptation can set in and someone may be heartbroken or you may end up lying to them to cover up what you have done.<br />Career opportunities may come up and this can have a drastic change on your life course. You need to consider both of you and go on from there. Would you give up a great sounding career or the relationship?<br />&nbsp;Dealing with long distance relationships can be stressful and to be successful, you need to make life plans and stick to them or be able to adjust in a way that is good for both of you. It isn't fair for just one of you to have to do everything and that person may end up resenting you. Honesty, understanding, cooperation and commitment are essential for a happy time while you are apart.<br />&nbsp;Many relationships can survive and even flourish even though there is distance between the couple. Many find that their love and understanding is even stronger than before and that they communicate better because of the effort it takes while apart.<br />I wish all long distance couples success and hope I have given you some room for thought.<br /><br /><i>Any questions or comments, please leave below as I welcome your opinions!</i><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />above photo ©Depositephotos.com[jovannig(Giovanni Gagliardi)<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-19921083875797903042014-07-27T23:10:00.001-07:002014-07-27T23:37:38.809-07:00How to be Attractive. Use Attractive Body Language<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Fk0sYRSkjYE/U9XsoA39woI/AAAAAAAAARE/D1kg2Oj-4F0/s1600/look_attractive.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Look Attractive" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Fk0sYRSkjYE/U9XsoA39woI/AAAAAAAAARE/D1kg2Oj-4F0/s1600/look_attractive.png" height="200" title="Look Attractive" width="200" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Look Attractive</td></tr></tbody></table>&nbsp;Thankfully, when it comes to communicating to the opposite sex, we are not just stuck with words alone.<br />&nbsp;Studies and experience do show that only a fairly small percentage of initial attraction is caused by the words we say.&nbsp; <br />The number one answer to the old question, <b><i>How to be more attractive? Is simply use attractive body language.</i></b><br /><b><i>&nbsp;</i> </b><br /><h4>Use Attractive Body Language </h4>Albert Mehrabian in his book "<i>Silent Messages</i>" states that we are perceived by others in three different ways.<b> Attractive body language</b> being one of the key ingredients in our seductive mix.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><u><span style="font-size: x-large;">How Others Perceive Us </span></u></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;">1. Visually or by Body Language is at a whopping 55%</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;">2. Vocally or by the tone of our voice by 38%</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;">3. Verbally or by our spoken words by 7%</span></div><br />One of the most powerful forms of attractive body language is by mirroring the other person. Mirroring is when one person subconsciously does what the other person is doing. As when one person crosses their legs and so does the other. This can show rapport between people and can also establish it.<br /><br />Salesman or people in public offices are trained to mirror others for just such a reason. Imitating a person is bad though so do not immediately start raising your arms just because they did, just seem to naturally go into anothers posture or manner.<br /><br />Not making the wrong body gestures can go a long way to working in our favor when we meet a potential date. For instance, it is considered bad to touch your face or cross your arms when talking. Crossing your arms can seem defensive and touching your face shows you may have something to hide ( at least sometimes people may think this). With this in mind, our question of <b>how to be more attractive </b>is sometimes best defined by things to avoid.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="background-color: white;"><u><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">Body Gestures to Avoid Using</span></span></u></span></div><ol style="text-align: left;"><li><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: large;">Crossing your arms. Seems defensive and defensive types of postures should be avoided.</span></span></li><li><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: large;">Touching or scratching your face. They say these things can makes us look like we are hiding something or nervous.</span></span></li><li><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: large;">Fiddling with things or fidgeting. Makes us look uncomfortable or nervous.</span></span></li><li><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: large;">Don't look down. This can be perceived as scared, guilty, not confident or a number of things</span></span></li><li><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: large;">Don't use jerky or fast sudden moves that can startle or scare someone. They may even think there is something wrong with you.</span></span></li><li><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: large;">Walking to fast is not good because you seem busy or preoccupied and therefore not available.</span></span></li><li><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;Don't hold your own hands, fingers or arms as these types of actions make us look like we are not confident.&nbsp;</span></span></li><li><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: large;">Do not clench fists or such things. This seems angry or defensive&nbsp;</span></span></li><li><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: large;">Don't tilt your head back or to the side. We tend to feel like we are being judged or disagreed with when someone does that to us.&nbsp;</span></span></li></ol>Here are some ways to use our bodies that may help cause attraction in a member of the opposite sex. Remember though that nothing ever works 100% of the time so bear that into consideration with these techniques.<br /><ol style="text-align: left;"></ol><div style="text-align: center;"><u><span style="font-size: x-large;">How to Use Gestures for Attractive Body Language</span></u></div><div style="text-align: left;"><ol><li><span style="font-size: large;">Hands are best left with palms either vertical or facing up as this seems more open and even supportive</span></li><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><li><span style="font-size: large;">Head should be tilted slightly toward your potential date. This makes us look interested in the conversation.</span></li><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><li><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;Keep body movements smooth and natural. Easy goes it here.</span></li><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><li><span style="font-size: large;">Maintain direct eye contact for at least 10 seconds for a romantic connection. Keep up the eye contact throughout the conversation. Both sexes love it when the opposite does this.</span></li><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><li><span style="font-size: large;">Lightly touch the other person at an appropriate time for a few seconds. This is said to be a good turn on sexually and shows the person you are here and with them. For men it is said a light touch to the back of elbow is good and for women to touch a mans lower arm or back of hand.</span></li><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><li><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;Many people say that a slight licking of your lips increases sexual tension with the opposite sex.</span></li><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><li><span style="font-size: large;">Triangle pattern of looking at someone. This goes along with numbers 4 and 6 above. Looking into their eyes for at least ten seconds and then at their lips while licking your own lips and back up to their eyes will cause them to lick their own lips. This can help to build rapport and can help produce a state where the other person is ready to be kissed even.&nbsp;</span></li><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><li><span style="font-size: large;">Point at a woman and say "Hey, come here." This is attractive body language for men. Women find the leading power of a man very sexually attractive. This tip was shared from <a href="http://www.davidwygant.com/blog/" target="_blank">David Wygant</a></span></li><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><li><span style="font-size: large;">Some suggest that men stand with feet spread apart a little bit farther than normal as this shows and gives a strong stance.</span></li><li><span style="font-size: large;">Keeping toes pointed toward a person somehow lets them know mentally that you are listening. Same goes for torso.</span></li><li><span style="font-size: 16.0px;"><span style="font-size: large;">Nod 3 times when someone finishes talking. This is supposed to cue them to continue! I read this information for the first time here <a href="http://www.scienceofpeople.com/the-psychology-of-attraction/" target="_blank">The Psychology of Attraction by Vanessa Van Edwards</a></span></span></li></ol></div>For the men some advice is that we should move our heads slowly and smoothly when someone tries to get our attention. Males that are in control are relaxed and confident, so we don't want to move erratically or jump just because someone calls our name.<br />Think of men who are powerful and act the way they act. Never see them bat an eye at anything. Copy that behavior. By the way this is pretty easy, just try to practice it some and don't worry if you make a mistake. Just recover afterward and continue with your in control state!<br /><br /><div align="center"><a href="http://www.100bestdatingsites.org/using-body-language-to-be-more-attractive/"><img alt="Using Body Language To Be More Attractive" border="0" src="http://www.100bestdatingsites.org/wp-content/themes/100bestdatingsites/images/infographics/UsingBodyLanguageToBeMoreAttractive.jpg" width="630px" /></a></div>Via: <a href="http://www.100bestdatingsites.org/">Best Dating Sites</a><br />&nbsp;This work is licensed under a<br /><a href="http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd/3.0/">Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License</a><br />&nbsp;Infographic Copyright 2011-2013 100BestDatingSites.org <br /><br /><br />To wrap up, I think an important piece of advice for anyone is to just relax, it isn't as though we will die if we fail at these things once in awhile and relaxing is basically a key ingredient to all of the things we discussed above.<br />Relaxing equals no fear and no fear helps with confident behavior. I just read somewhere that instead of&nbsp; focusing on our own fears, desires or actions we should instead focus on the other person. Makes sense doesn't it. Think about it.<br /><br />I hope you can understand that the answer to your question <b>How to be more attractive?</b> Is <b>use attractive body language.</b><br />Anyone have any tips or ideas to leave just comment below!Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-7030299384250658112014-07-05T22:32:00.001-07:002014-09-26T03:50:57.959-07:00Meeting Filipinas. Impress Philippines Girls the Right Way<div style="text-align: right;"></div><div style="text-align: right;"></div><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Wh6TIRD1EQA/U8P4bYnoVhI/AAAAAAAAAPQ/J3pGyBlqBtI/s1600/Filipinas_Love_Thoughtfulness.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Philippines Girls Love Thoughtfulness" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Wh6TIRD1EQA/U8P4bYnoVhI/AAAAAAAAAPQ/J3pGyBlqBtI/s1600/Filipinas_Love_Thoughtfulness.JPG" title="Philippines Girls Love Thoughtfulness" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Be Thoughtful</td></tr></tbody></table><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Well, here we are. In the Philippines or anywhere, us men want to successfully meet women.&nbsp; When you feel confused as to how to proceed, one sure fire way is to make a good impression. <i>Meeting Filipinas </i>is a lot like approaching women from other nationalities. So, here are some tips to <i>impress Philippines girls the right way.&nbsp;</i></span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">These tips are from actual conversations with Filipinas about what they admire in a man or suitor, as well as from observations and research on dating Philippines girls. Obviously, everyone has their own unique likes and dislikes so please remember this is a general guide and plan your actions accordingly.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">One of the biggest factors to consider when approaching a Pinay is your personal appearance. This can really make or break the deal because in the Philippine culture appearance is considered extremely important. Even the poor will go out of their way just to look neat and presentable whenever they can.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">All over the islands you see it. Foreigners are dressed shabbily and look dirty. Teeth are stained and they smell. These things tend to be due to the climate and whatever activities that they may be doing at the moment. While P.I. girls will go out with a guy looking like this, it is a wise idea to take the extra step and clean yourself up. Believe me, you will receive one hundred percent more smiles and looks than you will if you are messy. This means literally thousands of more dating opportunities. </span></span><br /><br /><h2><span style="font-size: x-large;"><b>Impress Philippines Girls the Right Way with Your Appearance</b></span></h2><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i>Hair: </i>Make sure that you hair is washed and neat. Clean and good looking hair is important no matter where you are and the Islands is no different. Depending on where you are located here, a haircut or even new hair style is relatively cheap when compared to other countries. Often, a decent haircut is fifty pesos or there abouts. That's only a little over one U.S. dollar.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">A good side effect of getting your haircut is the fact that it is much cooler, hopefully reducing the amount of sweating that you may do if you aren't used to a tropical environment.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i>Clothes: </i>As I mentioned earlier, the clothes we wear make a big difference here. I say this from personal observations that I have made about myself and from Filipinos telling me so. For some added <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Dress-to-Impress-Girls" target="_blank">advice on dressing</a> check out this nice bit of information that anyone can use.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;Clothing makes the difference. I can walk around in old shorts and t-shirt and still receive attention from the opposite sex, but, if I put on nice clothes I will get literally hundreds more looks and smiles (no lie or brag). These are more open looks and smiles too, not the guarded or secretive type I tend to receive otherwise. This means they are not hiding anything, they are openly looking and whoever notices it will. (This has to do with the society here, so I wanted to stress the difference of a secret look versus an open look.)</span></span><br /><br /><div style="text-align: left;"></div><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-XPJu-TkbKf0/U8OX9sv_F6I/AAAAAAAAAOo/TW6hrRt5mjM/s1600/dressright.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Girls from the Philippines Love a Well-Dressed Man" border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-XPJu-TkbKf0/U8OX9sv_F6I/AAAAAAAAAOo/TW6hrRt5mjM/s1600/dressright.png" height="320" title="Girls from the Philippines Love a Well-Dressed Man" width="226" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Filipinas Love a Well Dressed Man</td></tr></tbody></table><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Dress according to where you are going whether it be an event, barbeque, the mall or the beach. Dressing appropriately is important culturally here, so pay attention to other people and what they are wearing. Is it formal or casual or semi-casual, it can make a difference. A side note here if I can, ironing your clothes is a good idea even if they don't appear wrinkled. It ads an extra neat and groomed look that Pilipinas love and because of tropical pests it is a great idea.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">One nice thing is that being from another country can loosen the expectations a little or even a lot. We are not used to the hot weather so we get some slack at times about our dressing habits. I personally use this to my advantage whenever I can as I am more comfortable in shorts compared to pants and sandels compared to shoes and socks!</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Shorts are ok for many places and occasions, just make sure they are neat and clean looking and generally I think it is acceptable.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;Just pay attention and think beforehand about where you may be going or what you may be doing.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Slacks and dress pants really make a difference. Blue jeans are good but nice looking dress pants can score big points for you.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;Example, if going to a mall or out to eat or to a decent club, the dress pants win over shorts or nice looking blue jeans any day of the week. (Referring to above where I mentioned that I get so many open looks depending on how I dress was meant for this point. Before going to a good sized mall I showered and put on a nice pair of black dress pants along with a nice but inexpensive faux suede shirt that was also black. I also wore dress shoes. Not kidding nor bragging, I was getting so many open looks of admiration everywhere that I went. I believe I could have gotten many phone numbers for future dating had I been there for that purpose!)</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i>Shoes</i>: Shoes will make a difference as well. If going out where you really want to shine then wear a pair of good looking dress shoes. Obviously, a nice pair of regular shoes is good in the right situations and if going to the beach or similar then the flip flops work. Always remember, in this country and to a Filipina, a great appearance is nearly everything.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i>Scent</i>: Filipinos do not smell! Remember that. Never tell one that they have body odor or need a bath. In general it will offend them. They usually do not use deodorant because often times they do not produce underarm odor, so do not say they have it.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Typically, they will bathe and depending on what they are doing will use a body scent of some kind. They are conscious of smelling too strongly though so are careful not to use to much.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">As they do not smell then neither should you. We should shower and put on our own deodorant so we will not smell from the heat. Our cologne should be tastefully applied not using to much or to little. I am sure we all know the rule about wearing perfume or cologne so go by it.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Philippines girls do like a man with a nice scent (they seem sort of smell orientated). They like it a lot and you will reap the benefits of following this advice.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><i>Cleanliness</i>: Impress Filipinas with your own personal cleanliness. Before going out bath and wash with soap and water. Get rid of the dirt and grime of a tropical environment and be sure to trim all of your nails and clean under them as well as around them. Often times here it is easy to get dirty hands and feet and grime may collect under the nails or around them so clean those areas. Here is also the health factor. This is a third world country, so remember, clean hands and feet are important. Do not chew your nails or put fingers in your mouth.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">A smooth shave can work in your favor as well. I have been told by more than one Pilipina that they like a nice smooth and neat looking face. This is true. I do want to point out that sometimes this isn't always necessary. Short stubble that is neat and even can be acceptable, it seems that some girls here are attracted to it whether they want to admit it or not. Mainly, keep your face clean and any whiskers neat and even in appearance and you may be good to go. If it is a first date or something special then shave nice and close and smooth for sure.</span></span><br /><br /><h2><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">When Meeting Filipinas be Fun, Polite and Easy-going</span></span></h2><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">I think it is safe to say that you don't want to look like you are on the prowl for your next meal. I wouldn't ogle and drool over every other woman that you see. I tend to think it is a good idea to hold back a little bit and observe what is going on around you. Check and see if she has a guy around her or if a lot of people are paying her attention. I say this because she may be married or have a boyfriend. Not a good idea to hit on her. If there are a lot of people aware of her then it may not be a good idea because she may be part of a group and might not want the attention of a foreign male where everyone knows. These things have to do with culture and society so be aware of it.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">I like to see if she is looking my direction at all. If her looks are more open then it may be a good sign to proceed to talking with her. Regardless of a covert or open look, if it seems safe then go ahead and approach. </span></span><br /><div style="text-align: right;"></div><div style="text-align: right;"></div><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"></span></span><br /><div style="text-align: left;"></div><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"></span></span><br /><br /><div style="text-align: right;"></div><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-yod8kv3Yjkw/VCVD11TnvaI/AAAAAAAAAX0/qitx0jOF3z4/s1600/filipinaloveexpressions.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Filipina Love Expressions" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-yod8kv3Yjkw/VCVD11TnvaI/AAAAAAAAAX0/qitx0jOF3z4/s1600/filipinaloveexpressions.jpg" height="240" title="Filipina Love Expressions" width="320" /></a><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;A warning about smiles and looks. They do not always </span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">mean she is interested or available. Sometimes, I have seemed to notice a lot of looks and smiles from women who are already with someone or are just playing around. So be careful of jumping to the wrong conclusion and making a fool of yourself. This is one of the reasons that I mentioned to back off a bit and observe without being obvious about it. Spare yourself the ridicule or lose of face.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Be polite and easy going is a good motto. Philippines girls are hit on all the time by guys who style themselves as players and sometimes seem resentful of it.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;Remember too, as a visitor to their country it is not good to appear rude. So, being polite, respectful and easy going is a safe way to go.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;</span></span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Laughing is good. Pilipinas love to laugh and have a good time. Brush up on some non-offensive humor and be relaxed. Smiling and being fun is a big plus when meeting Filipinas. </span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;Girls here talk about celebrities and famous people. Brush up on what's happening to improve your conversation with them. Know current stars and movies and the popular trends, it can help in relating to them.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">I have noticed that even if the girls here are talking about someone or something in a non-pleasant way that it is not a good idea to join in very much. Even if they are enjoying themselves with the gossip, don't rush in with comments or laugh to much. As a visitor here it isn't considered well mannered for us to do so. Safer way is to continue to pay attention and look pleasant until the topic changes.</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">If possible and she seems worth it to you then pay for any drinks, meals or entertainment, at least at first. Once you seem to be going-out and if her financial situation is stable then she may be ok chipping in, but remember that old fashion ways do persist here. and chances are you will have to pay either way.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Confidence makes a big difference but don't be such an ass. It isn't very hard to just relax and be a man assured with himself so do it. I think you know what I mean so I will end that there. </span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Try to learn a few good phrases in Tagalog, Visayan or the local dialect. This can make it easier to follow along with conversations that are not in your native language and do show that you try to fit in.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Following this advice should help you with meeting Filipinas and although it is not exhaustive nor accurate in every single circumstance, following these things should help you impress Philippines Girls the right way. Remember, in the Philippines, a good impression goes along way for anything. </span></span><br /><br />Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-28166829770905078122014-06-19T21:03:00.000-07:002014-07-14T09:18:17.599-07:00Begin Online Dating. A Simple Overview<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Congratulations!&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">We (meaning you and I) made the decision to begin online dating. But, now we are in the same boat. I am confused about how to proceed with it. And so are you. I decided to write this simple overview to help us both out.<br />&nbsp;</span></span><br /><h3><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Decide What Your Dating Interests Are</span></span></span></h3><h3><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"></span></span></span></span></h3><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; text-align: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-xYSusGdm4Ig/U6MVC-7ELzI/AAAAAAAAAMw/qT-le1BjDso/s1600/begin-online-dating.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Decide Who We Want" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-xYSusGdm4Ig/U6MVC-7ELzI/AAAAAAAAAMw/qT-le1BjDso/s1600/begin-online-dating.jpg" height="240" title="Decide Who We Want" width="320" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Love from Anywhere</td></tr></tbody></table><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"> So many sites to choose from, it is hard to decide where to join. For starters, I think it is a good idea to either write down your dating interests or have a good idea of them in your mind.&nbsp;</span></span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Let us think about what we want. Are we only interested in certain types of dates? Meaning, do we really only want to find love with a single person who is from a different race or culture? Such as meeting Philippine singles or Thai girls.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Or, would we want to meet a fellow dog lover or vegan. If we are firmly wanting to meet people who fit these criteria, we may want to join a niche online dating site. These cater to people with yours or mine own interests, so it stands to reason that one of us at least can snag a partner off of these.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">I for one tend to like Asian girls, so I would want to find a suitable Asian or Filipina one to join.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">There are tons of niche sites online to make our choice from and the possibilities seem almost endless as to what interests they cover.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">If you don't need a special group of people to go out with then maybe it is ok to choose a general site. People on these are interested in virtually anything. Marriage, dates, dogs, whatever. If you want serious relationships and are not interested in only a niche then these are a good way to go.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br /></span></span> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">We may decide to hook-up for sex. There are casual sites that are sort of between general and adult, and then there are the adult ones. It seems that they are both good in terms of looking for a sex partner.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Finally, there is the alternative type. This is really good if that is your thing. But, I would like to point out that a good adult or casual site often has people with these interests. Once again, it is your decision.</span></span><br /><br /><h3><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">&nbsp;What Are The Benefits of Membership</span></span></h3><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">My advice to both of us is to take some time and look over what they offer in terms of membership. This is important because they do vary from one to the next in what you get, whether free or paid options.</span><br /><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-G64eGn39TCE/U6McHhjXEKI/AAAAAAAAAM8/VIxH_sLlUns/s1600/sealed_with_a_kiss+.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Send Romantic E card" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-G64eGn39TCE/U6McHhjXEKI/AAAAAAAAAM8/VIxH_sLlUns/s1600/sealed_with_a_kiss+.png" height="268" title="Send Romantic E card" width="320" /></a><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br /></span></span> <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">There are websites that provide reviews of the different dating sites that you can find online. Maybe, it is a good idea to check out some of those to see what they have to say about each one. Do not however take what they say as final. I think it is ok to use them as a general guide but we should make our own decisions. Sometimes maybe the guide is outdated or who knows what.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">So by doing some internet searches we have arrived on a website that we want to check-out. This is where I like to look at what they offer in terms of memberships. Do they have free memberships as well as paid? If so, then just what will they tell us about the benefits of each type of membership. I like everyone else, like to get a lot for free.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Online_dating_service" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">&nbsp;For a more in-depth explanation of online dating services try here</a></span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">&nbsp;Some offer free types of flirting or attention getting techniques that can be nice.&nbsp;</span></span><br /><b><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">These consist of things like:&nbsp;</span></span></b><br /><i><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">-free e cards that you can send to members</span></span></i><br /><i><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">- free flirting</span></span></i><br /><i><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">-free winking&nbsp;</span></span></i><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><i>-and some offer so many free emails that you can send.</i> This is nice because maybe we can get lucky and get some attention right away.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Paid features are also important to look at before we decide. What will we get for our money. Again, some offer more than others and some have different ways of letting people communicate. This is a personal decision that we must make for ourselves.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><b>&nbsp;A good site that I know of offers these and other features:</b>&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><i>-priority listings above other members, so that you are the first person they see.</i>&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">This is cool because it means yours is not the profile that is buried under all the rest</span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><i>- Another option they have is to text other singles.</i>&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">&nbsp;This is cool. Texting means doing it from the cell or android and not having to sit at your desktop. A definite time saver and an option that makes it so much more convenient to date online.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">&nbsp;<i>-Then there is the chat and video chat features. Awesome, we can see who we are interested in live on cam and even hear their voice.</i>&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">&nbsp;Cool way to get to know someone I think.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">These are just some of the features and benefits that I like to look out for when choosing. But, choose for yourself.</span></span><br /><br /><h3><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Terms and Conditions </span></span></h3><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-RRBJj001qbQ/U6Mm2_E2M7I/AAAAAAAAANg/AMngJ6AEJQA/s1600/Read-Fine-Print.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Read the Fine Print" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-RRBJj001qbQ/U6Mm2_E2M7I/AAAAAAAAANg/AMngJ6AEJQA/s1600/Read-Fine-Print.png" height="137" title="Read the Fine Print" width="320" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Know What You Agree To</td></tr></tbody></table><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;A very important thing to do before you whip out the credit card is to read the dreaded fine print. Go to the terms and conditions page and take the time to read over it. Hopefully, this page answers a lot of the questions that you have about what the website offers. Importantly, it should give the terms&nbsp; and conditions of your payment and possible refund if you do not like the site after you join. Please, read this and decide it they sound right to you. You may not be given much time to try to cancel your order or get any refund so be sure. And last, but not least at all, is the fact that many sites in any catagory nowadays usually have automatic recurring payments. You may want to watch that.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">A slower way to gain access to all the benefits is to send a check by mail. Some sites offer this.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Congratulations! We joined. Now what?&nbsp;</span></span><br /><br /><h3><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Personal Profile </span></span></h3><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Now ladies and gentlemen is the hard part for most of us. Making the dreaded profile so people will look at us and hopefully contact us.<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-YPZHdaZHIkI/U6MejZbLq8I/AAAAAAAAANI/NDXAVyAcRvE/s1600/Good-profile.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Show Yourself in a Positive LIght" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-YPZHdaZHIkI/U6MejZbLq8I/AAAAAAAAANI/NDXAVyAcRvE/s1600/Good-profile.png" height="296" title="Show Yourself in a Positive Light" width="400" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Why State the Unnecessary</td></tr></tbody></table></span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It is a good idea to not seem needy or too strange at this point. Do not begin your online dating experience with a headline like "lonely guy who hasn't had sex for 5 years." These types of messages anywhere in your profile will probably insure you stay that way. Alone at night!&nbsp;</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Do not start off by bragging about yourself either. Nobody wants to listen to you tell them how great you think you are. Instead, it seems a better idea to portray yourself in a positive light. We can and should mention our strong points, but in a round about sort of way. Maybe something like on Sundays after we go for a long swim we like to spend time at the nursing home talking to old people who don't have many visitors. Maybe that is a bad example but I think the point is obvious.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I think it is good to be honest right from the start, but that doesn't mean that we should give away private or unnecessary information about ourselves. Don't mention that you were involved in a drive by shooting or that your mother is in an insane asylum. Others do not need that type of information about you, at least not for along time.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Another obvious one, and one that most sites forbid members to post, is giving your phone number and address. Of course, do not make yourself vulnerable to any weirdos.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Don't be so generic in giving your interests or likes and dislikes. It is not very thrilling to sift through a thousand profiles that read virtually the same thing.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">&nbsp;Honestly, it makes a person wonder if they are serious or even real. You can mention that you love spicy chile during cold weather instead of just saying that you like to eat warm food when you are cold. Or, instead of just telling us that you like to read you could say you like Charles Dickens, for example.&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It can be hard for us to write about ourselves, but it is important to take the time and make a good one. If you need to why not browse other peoples profiles and see what they put. It is obvious when you see a nice one! <a href="http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Tips-for-Successful-Online-Dating" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Nice article about internet dating is here</a></span></span><br /><br /><h3><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Profile Pictures</span></span></h3><br /><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/--M4y2bVRU_4/U6MhNGAezpI/AAAAAAAAANQ/b2xihkNbFaM/s1600/profile-pic.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Profile Pic" border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/--M4y2bVRU_4/U6MhNGAezpI/AAAAAAAAANQ/b2xihkNbFaM/s1600/profile-pic.png" height="320" title="Profile Pic" width="244" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Choose Appropriate Pictures</td></tr></tbody></table><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There is new information out there now about the science of pictures in your dating profile and how well some types perform against others. I am not going too in depth about that here because it could get too wordy. However, there is now recommendations, to not take a selfie and post it online. Apparently, there is thought that there are already to many selfies. Personally, a selfie is fine with me but it should be a nice one. For girls, I have seen recommendations that photos taken with a side view are better than some frontal views. There appears to be psychological evidence to support these new opinions. There probably is too.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Do not worry to much at first about your profile because you can always update it later on.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">After we have made our profile we can get down to business and search for our new online friend. Many sites have differing search options but usually it is broken down into sex, age, location and various interests.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">That's it! We have started online dating.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Well, I hope that I have helped us to begin our online dating journey. This was a basic overview and there is a lot more that can be discussed but in the interest of letting you get started, I will end here.</span></span><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Day after day I was surfing the internet and everywhere I went I seemed to see ads for online dating sites.Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-55348533297725585492014-06-14T02:56:00.001-07:002014-07-14T09:19:59.806-07:00Filipina Smile<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-G3p4gAGd2AU/U5wXvf1IziI/AAAAAAAAAKk/voon1jFJyTs/s1600/Filipina-smile.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Filipina Smile" border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-G3p4gAGd2AU/U5wXvf1IziI/AAAAAAAAAKk/voon1jFJyTs/s1600/Filipina-smile.png" height="425" title="Filipina Smile" width="640" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"></td></tr></tbody></table><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/Sampaguitas/134257413315894" target="_blank">Poem originally posted on Sampaguitas Page</a></span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">&nbsp;A Filipina smile is like a flower in bloom</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Pretty as a treasured work of art</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Valued for its grace and perfection,</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Beauty is encompassing.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">There is harmony in a Filipina,</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">the way she moves and interacts.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">She is noted everywhere, her</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Kindness and charm are infectious.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Who would not love a Filipina?</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Soft-spoken and refine,</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">faithful and simply wonderful.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">©sampaguitas</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br /></span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">I thought this was a perfect photo for this poem the first time that I saw it. Sorry my editing skills don't do it justice. So, I decided to add it here as a fitting compliment!</span></span><br /><br />Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-47946037505961008812014-06-11T01:14:00.000-07:002014-09-10T08:57:03.083-07:00Why the Name Sampaguitas Dating. A Compliment to the Qualities of a Filipina<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><br /><br /><br /><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-wOxI7WuPsLM/VBBzoTZ90iI/AAAAAAAAAWU/19Gc470SjeQ/s1600/love-forever.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Love Forever" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-wOxI7WuPsLM/VBBzoTZ90iI/AAAAAAAAAWU/19Gc470SjeQ/s1600/love-forever.png" height="211" title="Love Forever" width="320" /></a></div><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Sampaguitas Dating was chosen after careful consideration of the qualities of a Filipina. Asian girls and even women from other countries included. I believe that the stories about the flower and the qualities it has come to stand for, can in a way, describe a pinay and is a compliment to a Filipina. There are so many desirable traits and characteristics to a babae (meaning girl or female) that they deserve a recognition. (A quick note about the word pinay. Some people say it can be derogatory but most every source I have found says otherwise. So, no insult intended.)</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">&nbsp; </span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">The sampaguita flower has its name rooted in Philippine legend and lore and plays a part in its culture. It was named the national flower of the P.I. (Philippine Islands) by the American Governor-general Frank Murphy in 1934.&nbsp;</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">As a reference for you I provided this link.&nbsp;<a href="http://www.ehow.com/list_6960593_philippines_-national-flower_.html" target="_blank">Philippines National Flower</a></span><br /><br /><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; text-align: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-V1br6paoirY/U47loMs49uI/AAAAAAAAAJM/CjHCSu2rdGE/s1600/sampaguita.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Sampaguita" border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-V1br6paoirY/U47loMs49uI/AAAAAAAAAJM/CjHCSu2rdGE/s1600/sampaguita.png" height="212" title="Sampaguita" width="320" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">&nbsp;"© Depositphotos.com/[Digifuture(Vitali Dyatchenko)"</td></tr></tbody></table><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">This variety of jasmine represents humility, purity, simplicity and strength; sometimes including love, dedication, devotion and fidelity.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">After conducting my own research into the subject and after having been here for awhile I came to the conclusion that these things should also symbolize a compliment to the Pinay and be chosen for the name of Sampaguitas Dating. </span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Qualities of a Filipina: Humility, Purity, Simplicity, Strength.</span><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-RkahSBRuKgI/U5f5yy5DxzI/AAAAAAAAAKU/-a6QSugJzG0/s1600/island-girl.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Island Girl" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-RkahSBRuKgI/U5f5yy5DxzI/AAAAAAAAAKU/-a6QSugJzG0/s1600/island-girl.png" height="320" title="Island Girl" width="213" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">image © Derrick Block</td></tr></tbody></table><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Looking into the Republics past, hearing the stories about the lands women and then looking at the present and seeing how much they do to support the family unit and the economy in general it was natural to feel this way. I say this because if you are here for any length of time, you will notice that most establishments whether they are stores or other businesses have more women than men in the front lines and back offices. It is common to find that the girls are working long hours and often times are not paid very well. But, they persevere for themselves and for the futures of their families. The men while important seem to generally be employed in other sectors such as construction, security and the maritime industries and that is a topic for another story.</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Sampaguitas comes from the words "sumpa kita" and has depending on the source, a few different meanings that pretty much stand for the same sort of thing. One source gives the meaning "I promise you" while another one gives "You are my promise... You are my vow!" and&nbsp; "I swear, I swear" in another.&nbsp; Still a different source translates it into "I pledge myself to you." Basically, to me all the different translations have the same meaning. Strength and purity of devotion to your love!</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">The legends of the flower I feel are a little varied as I have found more than one story concerning it, but in general they tend to stand for the same type of thing. A love that is strong and pure, with an undying devotion.<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-_iZA9VSHiL0/U8P7m0fBHVI/AAAAAAAAAPk/FCF36zWdVtA/s1600/die-for-love+.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="Die for Love" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-_iZA9VSHiL0/U8P7m0fBHVI/AAAAAAAAAPk/FCF36zWdVtA/s1600/die-for-love+.png" height="320" title="Die for Love" width="304" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Would You Die for Love</td></tr></tbody></table></span><br /><div style="text-align: right;"></div><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;"></span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">One story is about the beautiful Rosita and the only man who captured her heart, the handsome Delfin. Their respective baraguys had a disagreement over the boundary line. Neither side would give in and those types of disagreements usually resulted in bloodshed. So, the two sides prepared and did battle. It was a very bloody affair and Delfin was mortally wounded. Before he died however, he asked his men to take and bury him near the end of the fence line where he and Rosita used to meet in secret.&nbsp;</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Rosita heard about what had happened to her love and became seriously sick. Before she had passed away she had requested to be buried with her eternal love, Delfin, near the end of the fence.</span><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Many years passed and new generations lived in the two baranguys, but all the people living in the area heard, especially during the month of May, the wonderfully sweet voice of a woman saying "sumpa kita...sumpa kita!" (I swear! I swear!) only nobody ever saw anyone in the vicinity. The voice seems to come from little white flowers that produce such a wonderful fragrance that anyone who smells it, immediately loves it. With the passage of time the phrase "sumpa kita" has become to be pronounced sampaguita!&nbsp;</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Here is another reference.</span><br /><a href="http://en.wikipilipinas.org/index.php/The_Legend_of_the_Sampaguita" target="_blank">The Legend of the Sampaguita</a><br /><br /><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-eT8Kul8XBhQ/VBB0OFjEuhI/AAAAAAAAAWg/jVQJ3TtYKZU/s1600/die-for-love.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"></a><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-eT8Kul8XBhQ/VBB0OFjEuhI/AAAAAAAAAWg/jVQJ3TtYKZU/s1600/die-for-love.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Die for Love" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-eT8Kul8XBhQ/VBB0OFjEuhI/AAAAAAAAAWg/jVQJ3TtYKZU/s1600/die-for-love.png" height="240" title="Die for Love" width="320" /></a></span></span></span></span>A second short narration of the </span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">legend consists of two lovers. A warrior named Lakam Galing and his lover Lakambini. Before Lakam would go into battle, the two lovers would say "sumpa kita" to express their devotion to each other. When he was killed in a battle she died in grief and little white flowers grew on her grave as a symbol of her&nbsp;</span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-eT8Kul8XBhQ/VBB0OFjEuhI/AAAAAAAAAWg/jVQJ3TtYKZU/s1600/die-for-love.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"></a></span></span>love.&nbsp;</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">A third legend tells of a beautiful princess named Guita&nbsp;</span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-eT8Kul8XBhQ/VBB0OFjEuhI/AAAAAAAAAWg/jVQJ3TtYKZU/s1600/die-for-love.png" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"></a>whose father was a ruthless king who had hopes she would meet a prince from a strong kingdom. Instead, Guita met a slave named Sampague, or Sampa, while she was roaming the kingdom and fell in love with him. Her father, the king, found out and ordered Guita to stop seeing Sampa. Guita and Sampa eloped and hid deep in the woods to escape punishment. Her father then sent his soldiers to search the land until they were found. After finding the young love birds the soldiers killed them and buried them in their hiding spot. The king then was filled with remorse and went to visit the grave. He found a shrub with white flowers that had the most wonderful fragrance. He took the fragrance as a sign that he was forgiven by the couple and named the plant Sampaguita.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"></span></span><br /><div style="text-align: right;"></div><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"></span></span> <br /><div style="text-align: right;"></div><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-P_yh-ycTTX8/VBBy4MyBUlI/AAAAAAAAAWM/8e_gAtTGCjk/s1600/undying-love.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"></a><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">There </span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">are other </span></span>versions of these legends and stories that I have heard and am not recounting here, so if you are interested do some internet research or even ask a Filipino.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">When you get to know a Pilipina (not a typing mistake it is Tagalog, the national language) you realize that there is a greater depth to them than meets the eye. Not knowing the culture and language can confuse a person and give the wrong impression so be careful not to jump to the wrong conclusion. You will probably get a&nbsp; real surprise and even a rude awakening if you don't.</span></span><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-P_yh-ycTTX8/VBBy4MyBUlI/AAAAAAAAAWM/8e_gAtTGCjk/s1600/undying-love.png" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Undying Love" border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-P_yh-ycTTX8/VBBy4MyBUlI/AAAAAAAAAWM/8e_gAtTGCjk/s1600/undying-love.png" height="240" title="Undying Love" width="320" /></a><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">&nbsp;I also want to point out that to somebody not born here it can take along time to learn all you can about the culture and that there are some things that are never really explained or acknowledged.&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Welcome to a foreign country is all I can say.&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">In all the time that I have spent in the Philippines and observed the Philippine lady I believe that the flower is a fitting symbol and a compliment to the Filipina.&nbsp;</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">That is how Sampaguitas Dating was chosen as the name of this blog and also as the name for the dating site Sampaguitas.(Link to Sampaguitas is at the top right of the page!)</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">We are still Sampaguitas Dating but have a new name and updated focus! <a href="http://www.datingexpression.com/p/about-dating-expression.html">Dating Expression</a>. </span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br /></span></span>Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6083976218021188824.post-45222085610416991762014-06-09T02:13:00.000-07:002014-09-10T07:12:39.556-07:00Why Date Filipinas. Qualities of a Filipina Guide<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><br /><br /><br /><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-k7i-C6eZDJo/VBBcJ2AV2NI/AAAAAAAAAVw/ws0dDIBrXsQ/s1600/philippine-dating.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Philippine Dating" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-k7i-C6eZDJo/VBBcJ2AV2NI/AAAAAAAAAVw/ws0dDIBrXsQ/s1600/philippine-dating.png" height="213" title="Philippine Dating" width="320" /></a><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">You may have heard other people talking about someone they know who has met or is dating a Filipina. You ask yourself. <b>"Why date Filipinas? What are the qualities of a Filipina that would make them desirable to a man from another country?"</b></span></span><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">I admit that before I started to date a girl from the Philippines I asked myself these same questions. I had heard the negative comments made by people about them so I was a little dubious. I was also curious though, because I realized not everyone can be bad or undesirable. But then I met a woman and we started to talk and form an attachment and we started going-out together.</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">I realized that these Philippines girls also have a lot of good qualities and characteristics that make them fun and desirable to befriend, date or even to form a long-term relationship with. I was having more fun and a much more interesting experience by knowing this filipino girl than I had with females from my own country.</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">&nbsp;</span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Well, for one thing a lot of us want something different and going-out with a person from another culture is very different. It is new and exciting and even exotic.</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</span><br /><h3><span style="font-size: large;"> <span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <u>Good Reasons to Date Your Babae&nbsp;</u></span></span></h3><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><i><b>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Philippines Girls are </b></i></span></span><br /><ul><li><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Fun, Carefree and Playful</span></li><li><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Hard Working and Love of Family</span></li><li><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Naturally Sexually Attractive</span></li><li><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Monogamous</span></li><li><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Educated</span></li><li><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Good Conversion Rates for Your Money </span></li></ul><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Here are those reasons below</span><span style="font-size: large;">.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <br /><h3><span style="font-size: large;"> <span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">&nbsp;</span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Fun, Carefree and Playful Attitude of Filipino Girls </span></span></h3><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-EBTx_vXtIhY/U467WSzK8lI/AAAAAAAAAIE/EYw_QoV_voU/s1600/playful.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Playful Pinay" border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-EBTx_vXtIhY/U467WSzK8lI/AAAAAAAAAIE/EYw_QoV_voU/s1600/playful.png" height="197" title="Playful Pinay" width="200" /></a><span style="font-size: large;">&nbsp; <span style="font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">To start off I would say that Philippines girls are fun to be around. They can have a carefree and playful attitude that is refreshing and just wonderful to experience. Compare that to women from other cultures who always take everything so serious and you will know what I mean.</span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">They will make funny but strange jokes and tell odd stories that are always amusing and can laugh about most anything. Just a couple of weeks ago I was at a resort here in the Philippines and a group of them were gathered in and around the pools. Listening to them talk and seeing them interact amongst themselves as they play around was a joy to me. It just seemed so innocent and carefree. It even seemed they might invite me to hang out with them for awhile, but unfortunately i had to attend a wedding, so wasn't able to reciprocate the mood. But I did walk away feeling good.</span></span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <br /><h3><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Hard Working and Love of Family </span></h3><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-jgCfaour6LU/U4wpRmKkbPI/AAAAAAAAAGo/vRcF3QGbNI4/s1600/hard-working-babae.gif" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Hard Working Babae" border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-jgCfaour6LU/U4wpRmKkbPI/AAAAAAAAAGo/vRcF3QGbNI4/s1600/hard-working-babae.gif" height="233" title="Hard Working Babae" width="320" /></a></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Most Asian women and girls are hard working and know they need to help provide for the future. Although it was expected in most Asian societies for the man to provide, the females know they should as well, and now are. Always working hard and even long hours they are used to the discipline it takes to form a life. In the Philippines now it is common that most companies are hiring more women compared to men and if you visit you will notice it. Checkout the stores and most places in town and you will surely find many feminine employees and even business owners.</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">&nbsp;The responsible side of their nature takes over and they tolerate conditions that would have other women screaming, but they do it because they have to and to ensure that the family back home is taken care of as much as possible. One can only find respect for such dedication and love for family. This reveals an inner strength and ability to endure hardship, and I think it is there partially due to the past occupations the islands have gone though.</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">&nbsp;</span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">&nbsp;</span><br /><h3><span style="font-size: large;"> <span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">&nbsp;Natural Sexual Attractiveness of Filipinas </span></span></h3><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Niaf6aHlVl0/U4w1f1oeDoI/AAAAAAAAAG8/gV5FZ7BnqDs/s1600/philippine-beauty+-+Copy.gif" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Sexually Attractive" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Niaf6aHlVl0/U4w1f1oeDoI/AAAAAAAAAG8/gV5FZ7BnqDs/s1600/philippine-beauty+-+Copy.gif" height="268" title="Sexually Attractive" width="320" /></a><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">An obvious answer to the question, "Why date Filipinas?" is the natural sexual attractiveness they have. The country has gone through periods of occupation and rule by other foreign countries and have mixed blood. They are also an earthy sort of people and many have ties to nature and the sea. As a result they have an inner sexual magnetism and beauty that you cannot really appreciate from photos, you need to see it in real life. Their inner sexuality and outer physical characteristics combine to make P.I. ladies a knockout!</span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <br /><h3><span style="font-size: large;"> <span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">&nbsp;Monogamous Relationships</span></span></h3><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">One of the most endearing qualities they have is that many will wait until marriage before they engage in sexual intercourse. The island culture is such that it can be frowned on to sleep around with a lot of men or to even appear to forward in mannerism in public&nbsp; Marriage here is for life as there is no divorce law because they are primarily a Catholic nation.&nbsp;</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">This can vary from area to area though. Sometimes in the city or other places the girls are not so old fashioned seeming, at least as regards to foreign men. I plan to write more about this in a later post or article though and don't want to get too in depth here.</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <br /><h3><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Educated for a Quality Life</span></h3><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-hYzzSrOpKpk/U4w-gJ-kfOI/AAAAAAAAAHU/SZMT7b-tXdw/s1600/educated-babae.gif" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Educated for Quality LIfe" border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-hYzzSrOpKpk/U4w-gJ-kfOI/AAAAAAAAAHU/SZMT7b-tXdw/s1600/educated-babae.gif" height="195" title="Educated for Quality Life" width="320" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Whenever possible ladies here will educate themselves. It is a belief they have to always strive for more I think. If you take time and listen you will find out that many of these people have more than one degree, and not just bachelors either but masters and even doctorates. I believe they do this to not only better themselves but to help insure that children and relations are better provided for and for a way for them to get into positions of employment that may not be open to them otherwise. In real life connections matter and every person here knows it!</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">The country had a strong American presence in the past and as a result many Filipinos can speak English to a greater or lesser degree. In fact they are taught it in school. Most signs and advertisements and streets are in English which makes it easy to get around compared to most non English speaking countries.</span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> <br /><h3><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Good Conversion Rates for Your Money<br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-ZpuoiIgtNX0/U463Tn9ekUI/AAAAAAAAAH4/9fkQcExhMC8/s1600/dollar_bag.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img alt="Money Goes Farther" border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-ZpuoiIgtNX0/U463Tn9ekUI/AAAAAAAAAH4/9fkQcExhMC8/s1600/dollar_bag.png" height="240" title="Money Goes Farther" width="320" /></a></div></span></h3><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">A real nice bonus to dating a filipina is the cost! Most pinays are ok if you don't take them to five star resturaunts every weekend (but would be thrilled if you do once in awhile).&nbsp; As I stated above, many girls here are not from rich families so are not used to that lifestyle anyway. Do however be respectful and prepare for your date and take her somewhere at least decent.&nbsp;</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">The generally good conversion rates of many western currencies compared to here or other Asian countries means your dollar goes farther. Sometimes a lot farther, and beyond the conversion, it is just a fact that the dollar stands for more and so do you. Meaning that you may be regarded as a stable, even rich sort of fellow. </span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">Depending on where you are in the Philippines, you can easily have a date for one thousand pesos (about twenty-five U.S. dollars). This can be more or less depending on what you do together.</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">&nbsp;As an example, if you were in the provinces and not in metro Manila, then a good meal at a good place can be about two hundred pesos each. A movie is about one hundred and fifty pesos each for the tickets. Pedi cabs in many areas are maybe nine pesos a ride as long as you are not going too far. So right there you took her to a movie and had good dining for under the one thousand pesos that I mentioned and she is more than likely thrilled with you too!</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">There are many answers to the questions "Why date Filipinas?" and to "What qualities do they have that would make them desirable?" and I trust that I have given you are few good ones.</span><br /><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: large;">I must admit that in the time that I have been here, I have had more fun than I did back home and have learned some of the their culture too. Just remember to study up on the parts of Asia you intend to go to before hand so you are prepared. I will be writing more about these things here and I urge you to look at forums for international dating and Expatriots. There are some good ones that provide a lot of information so check those out.<br /></span><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br /></span> Mike Bernstenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156646526322411233noreply@blogger.com0