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How to be Attractive. Use Attractive Body Language

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 Thankfully, when it comes to communicating to the opposite sex, we are not just stuck with words alone.
 Studies and experience do show that only a fairly small percentage of initial attraction is caused by the words we say. 
The number one answer to the old question, How to be more attractive? Is simply use attractive body language.

Use Attractive Body Language

Albert Mehrabian in his book "Silent Messages" states that we are perceived by others in three different ways. Attractive body language being one of the key ingredients in our seductive mix.

How Others Perceive Us
1. Visually or by Body Language is at a whopping 55%
2. Vocally or by the tone of our voice by 38%
3. Verbally or by our spoken words by 7%

One of the most powerful forms of attractive body language is by mirroring the other person. Mirroring is when one person subconsciously does what the other person is doing. As when one person crosses their legs and so does the other. This can show rapport between people and can also establish it.

Salesman or people in public offices are trained to mirror others for just such a reason. Imitating a person is bad though so do not immediately start raising your arms just because they did, just seem to naturally go into anothers posture or manner.

Not making the wrong body gestures can go a long way to working in our favor when we meet a potential date. For instance, it is considered bad to touch your face or cross your arms when talking. Crossing your arms can seem defensive and touching your face shows you may have something to hide ( at least sometimes people may think this). With this in mind, our question of how to be more attractive is sometimes best defined by things to avoid.

Body Gestures to Avoid Using
  1. Crossing your arms. Seems defensive and defensive types of postures should be avoided.
  2. Touching or scratching your face. They say these things can makes us look like we are hiding something or nervous.
  3. Fiddling with things or fidgeting. Makes us look uncomfortable or nervous.
  4. Don't look down. This can be perceived as scared, guilty, not confident or a number of things
  5. Don't use jerky or fast sudden moves that can startle or scare someone. They may even think there is something wrong with you.
  6. Walking to fast is not good because you seem busy or preoccupied and therefore not available.
  7.  Don't hold your own hands, fingers or arms as these types of actions make us look like we are not confident. 
  8. Do not clench fists or such things. This seems angry or defensive 
  9. Don't tilt your head back or to the side. We tend to feel like we are being judged or disagreed with when someone does that to us. 
Here are some ways to use our bodies that may help cause attraction in a member of the opposite sex. Remember though that nothing ever works 100% of the time so bear that into consideration with these techniques.
    How to Use Gestures for Attractive Body Language
    1. Hands are best left with palms either vertical or facing up as this seems more open and even supportive
    2. Head should be tilted slightly toward your potential date. This makes us look interested in the conversation.
    3.  Keep body movements smooth and natural. Easy goes it here.
    4. Maintain direct eye contact for at least 10 seconds for a romantic connection. Keep up the eye contact throughout the conversation. Both sexes love it when the opposite does this.
    5. Lightly touch the other person at an appropriate time for a few seconds. This is said to be a good turn on sexually and shows the person you are here and with them. For men it is said a light touch to the back of elbow is good and for women to touch a mans lower arm or back of hand.
    6.  Many people say that a slight licking of your lips increases sexual tension with the opposite sex.
    7. Triangle pattern of looking at someone. This goes along with numbers 4 and 6 above. Looking into their eyes for at least ten seconds and then at their lips while licking your own lips and back up to their eyes will cause them to lick their own lips. This can help to build rapport and can help produce a state where the other person is ready to be kissed even. 
    8. Point at a woman and say "Hey, come here." This is attractive body language for men. Women find the leading power of a man very sexually attractive. This tip was shared from David Wygant
    9. Some suggest that men stand with feet spread apart a little bit farther than normal as this shows and gives a strong stance.
    10. Keeping toes pointed toward a person somehow lets them know mentally that you are listening. Same goes for torso.
    11. Nod 3 times when someone finishes talking. This is supposed to cue them to continue! I read this information for the first time here The Psychology of Attraction by Vanessa Van Edwards
    For the men some advice is that we should move our heads slowly and smoothly when someone tries to get our attention. Males that are in control are relaxed and confident, so we don't want to move erratically or jump just because someone calls our name.
    Think of men who are powerful and act the way they act. Never see them bat an eye at anything. Copy that behavior. By the way this is pretty easy, just try to practice it some and don't worry if you make a mistake. Just recover afterward and continue with your in control state!

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    To wrap up, I think an important piece of advice for anyone is to just relax, it isn't as though we will die if we fail at these things once in awhile and relaxing is basically a key ingredient to all of the things we discussed above.
    Relaxing equals no fear and no fear helps with confident behavior. I just read somewhere that instead of  focusing on our own fears, desires or actions we should instead focus on the other person. Makes sense doesn't it. Think about it.

    I hope you can understand that the answer to your question How to be more attractive? Is use attractive body language.
    Anyone have any tips or ideas to leave just comment below!


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